Essie
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I’ve never been to a DW meetup, but I’d like to propose that we have the next one at a Golden Corral…..
Sarah, people are reacting to the childish way YOU’RE reacting.
A mature response would be “wow, so you really don’t think I have a chance with the guy? Well, that’s not what I wanted to hear.” Or, “Is there anything that I could do that would give me a shot with him?”
Immature = “you all should die”, “go choke on a dick”, “HELLO U PPL ARE AS DUMB AS FUCK”, and, best of all, “Excuse me bitch I don’t sound immature.”
I have to revise my earlier advice. After hearing the way you talk to people who were trying to help you, I can’t imagine that a grown man would be the slightest bit interested, even if he were single.
OK, so…..immature. Never mind. Carry on with your crush.
Even single bosses aren’t supposed to date their employees. So yes, even if he were to leave his wife, he still wouldn’t be able to date you.
But, that’s not even the biggest problem. He’s taken. You can’t have him. He’s off the market. Unavailable.
Marriages don’t just fall apart for no reason. You keep saying ‘it can happen’….well, theoretically, it’s possible that he or his wife could wake up tomorrow and say “what the heck am I doing married to this person?” and file for divorce. Is it likely? No. Is there even a 5% chance that such a thing could happen? Probably not. It’s possible that a stranger could walk up to me this afternoon and hand me a million dollars….but really, really unlikely.
Look, I know it hurts. We’ve all been there. But there are things in this life you just can’t have. I’d like to be able to retire this year. I’d like to move to FL before next winter. I’d like Nathan Fillion to ask me to marry him. All of those things, while ‘possible’ in some sense of the word, just aren’t going to happen. Clinging to false hope is just going to make it hurt more.
Sarah, is your boss flirting/coming on to you/hitting on you? Or is it just that he’s a really cool guy you’d like to date? I’m just curious.
Look, everyone here has had crushes on bosses, supervisors, teachers, professors, etc. The thing is, none of us are going to tell you what you want to hear, which is “YES! It might happen! His happy marriage could just fall apart out of the blue next week, and he’ll see you standing there and realize you were the right woman for him all along!”
What you’re describing does happen – in the movies. Not so much in real life. In real life, broken marriages are painful and ugly, and people don’t just turn around and start dating someone. And in real life, bosses who get romantically involved with their employees generally lose their jobs, because bosses aren’t supposed to do that.
I’m sorry, but this isn’t going anywhere. The reality just isn’t going to match up with the fantasy. If you just can’t bear to be around him, start looking for a job somewhere else.
