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Happy birthday copa!!! Aw that is so sweet.
Just about birthdays, 1) My bf only has two more of his “two weeks on, two weeks off” thing! 2) he was supposed to leave two days before my birthday in August for one session. I’m pretty easy going about birthdays but I was a little disappointed since it’s my 30th (!). However work is work. He then managed to arrange it to leave a couple days after my birthday. Totally unnecessary but sweet. I think I will still have a celebration with friends the weekend before; just awkward because it’s not the closest weekend to my birthday.
And on dating and stuff, 3) we are going on our first flight together this week. Visiting you Americans’ fine city of Boston. Just 4 days 5 nights. I’m excited and a little nervous! Would also love any of your recommendations.
Hope you and your family/town are doing well Ver.
Glad your lash extensions are fixed Hizzy! Omg that is scary.
Did you give her a plus one to the rehearsal or no? Is this just the dinner or actually a rehearsal — and which part are the spouses attending? Did you give her a plus one to even the wedding?
For the rehearsal part, if I were in the wedding and I didn’t get a plus one, I wouldn’t bring a date or ask. I see it more as wedding duties rather than a dinner party.Even if I did get a plus one and this was a newer relationship I wouldn’t bring a date because I’d be busy.
And re the previous topic, I thought my bf and I were fine sleeping through the night. I’ve just learned that I roll onto his side sometimes so much so he’s on the edge! I am a little embarrassed. He obviously knows it’s not intentional. He sweetly brought it up. I’m not sure what to do other than be more on my side when I fall asleep (we usually cuddle then go out “side”).
So relieved for you Ale.
How did you manage to buy a condo and plan a wedding at the same time ktfran? That said I really like your timeline.
As much as I miss my bf while he is away, I do get so much done by myself like laundry, cleaning the unit, cooking, etc. Dating takes time!
This is a double post but I now know personally of a divorce among my friends/acquaintances. It is a bit of shock and quite sad. They are 31. Met in university. Married for about four years so they didn’t get married overly young, but relatively young compared to our circle. No kids. It’s amicable but wow, it seems stressful.
So glad your dog is doing better and wishing him continued recovery! It’s so amazing that BG has been supportive too.
I’ve felt the same about accepting help. I mentioned how my boyfriend has been able to stay over at my place more (just one or two nights a week) during the work week during his weeks “off”. He makes me tea and coffee while I get ready and it’s sweet. I do feel bad I can’t “host” him in the morning but it is helpful even just the little things.
Aw nice! Also just curious did you go out or did you make dinner? I’ve been trying to entertain more so I’m looking for easy dinner party ideas.
Brunch wedding sounds amazing! One of my brother’s friends did that at a nice hotel so that lowered cost of being at the nice venue. And a blogger I follow did hers at a restaurant. Seems so chill!
@cleo, congrats on grad school!! I hope you get what you want in terms of clarity for your relationship.
@Copa, haha no worries. The short answer is no. We’ve talked about the objective idea. There probably is a longer answer that is best suited for a therapist (I kid, just personal things, nothing bad).
I have to say I really appreciate the input here at DW. I am glad my gut reaction is not that far off, even though every couple is different. I didn’t even think about the planning a wedding part but it’s true, it could be a long engagement. Also agreed it could be possible with those committed to being common law spouses so to speak.
I’d say with the rising real estate market there is some pressure to buy but it’s a matter of by yourself or with your partner. I’m not speaking personally but I think that factors into decisions especially if you are renting together.
Could I get some thoughts on couples buying a property before marriage or even engagement? Did any of you do it? My immediate reaction is always “Oh wow”. I just think of how it could be messy. But in my limited circle of friends and acquaintances, fairly educated, the people who bought places did get engaged and married later. Of course every couple is different and they likely had a serious conversation. I’m just not sure why I have a traditional view, initially at least.
Just a minor update, kind of on finances again, my bf was really considering a smart watch with his bonus money but he decided against it because he didn’t need it. Of course it’s fine either way, but apparently he had been thinking about it for a couple months. So he does think about his purchases; he just doesn’t bore me with his rumination.
I hated too that with my first name, occupation and city you could find me. On the other hand I did do a Google search on guys before a date as a check they were real. I don’t know, would you start a burner Facebook account for Tinder and Bumble? Of course at a certain point before a first date you’d have to give your name but hopefully most would understand.
Aw that’s exciting Copa! Have you chatted much about him with your coworkers? I know you said he’s continuing to have a lot of work travel but is this his big return from the trip (since your travelling plans did not align)?
My bf met me quickly for lunch today. He brought Blaze pizza which was $3.14! Soo we are satisfying my frugality hahaha. Happy Pi Day!
