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@ver, ah got it. I hope that didn’t come across accusatory. I never opened up my radius so large, but I am fortunate that I don’t need to (although I keep swiping!). Meeting halfway — 45 minutes seems very doable.

@cleo, best update!! I had such a smile on my face reading it.

First date was pretty nice! And yeah, I found him more physically attractive than his pictures 🙂 I don’t think I have any “buts” right now, hahaha. We found out that I went to the same high school as his mom, and none of us live in the city of the high school/we didn’t meet in that city, so that was just neat. Well, we’ll see I guess. I don’t want to get into a head spin of how many first dates I’ve been on and how ultimately they don’t pan out.

Sorry to hear about the parvo, copa. Hope your pup feels better soon.

I think I have a date this Saturday afternoon. I think 1% of me wants to go just to get out of this dating rut, but for the most part, I’d like to meet up with this guy because he actually seems to have a personality that comes out through text. I guess I can’t really tell if I’m physically attracted to the him, but I’m hoping the pictures aren’t great and it’ll be easier to tell in person, of course.

@copa, now that is just sloppy social media perusing! Heh. Yeah, I totally understand checking in on past people, but I try to be careful, right? She must know that you can see who’s viewed your Stories. So is it a weird power move? … So bizarre!

It was a coworker’s wedding over the weekend. It was pretty nice. But I felt all this stupid self-inflicted pressure of finding a significant other to be socially/professionally acceptable? A coworker is recently single and she is going on dates etc. and I feel cruddy because I haven’t been on a date since May. I haven’t really found anybody interesting? I’m not sure. I felt lonely yesterday because my parents and sister are traveling, and while I do have friends, they’re not the kind of I just call up. I did end up going to the park and reading a little.

Yeah, just have to get this self deprecating stuff out… the positive is I tracked my food today! More or less, I added a random tablespoon of olive oil because it’s a little inaccurate with cooking. I know that losing weight is not the key to happiness, but I can’t use that as a reason not to do it.

Happy anniversary, y’all!

@TheLadyE, HippieArtistGuy has a fond place in my heart 😉

It’s motivating to see people talking about fitness. It’s been five years since I really counted calories and I did notice a change. I’m not sure why I stopped. It was a little obsessive but nothing extreme. Otherwise, my weight has been the same for about eight years, basically my 20s. I can’t help but think my life would be different/better if I lost 5-15 pounds/gained muscle. It’s hard to start.

Wow, two years ago I had just come back from Chicago and now I’ve just come back from Georgia! My visits to the States have really aligned. I can’t say my dating life has changed at all, which is a little unnerving. I do go on dates, just never intensely. Haven’t been on a date since May.

Ugh, @Ale, that sounds super creepy what that guy did. I don’t add guys from online dating to Facebook when it’s early on. I still have this friend request from 2013* kicking around from a guy I went on two dates with. He added me after the first date and I kind of ignored it and we didn’t bring it up on the second date. I think he was perfectly normal and we had a mutual friend but I just didn’t feel like adding him.

Then again I did add a guy from Bumble who asked to add me so he could see how I really looked and I am so embarrassed, still, that I did add him (and we didn’t go out afterwards). I promptly unfriended him right after. I think I wrote about that here actually. So, lesson learned and bullet dodged, @Ale.

Fingers crossed on the dog, @copa!

* I’ve been online dating on and off for four years (there was a lot off though). I’ve never had a period of time when I was “seriously” online dating, like going out on multiple dates for weeks. It’s not entirely my choice — I don’t get lots of serious messages or matches either. I think my pictures and my actual personality do not come across as “sexy”, more cute, not sure if I should work on that.

I started OKCupid again after a six month break and I was optimistic, but a lot of the guys are the same. Been messaging a couple guys but I’m not really feeling it. Then I started an account on Match and the interface is just awful. I do not feel like paying for it at all. My coworkers really encourage the paid online sites — two of them found their spouses on there — and maybe they have a point being in a regional city.