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Glad to hear your new job is going well so far, Copa!
Went on a third date with the Guy for dinner. Sadly, I guess I am not “Feeling it”. It sucks, I want to like him. Probably the most decent guy I’ve met from online. Part of me is grateful because it’s made me appreciate being single. No, the dates weren’t bad, but I realized with texting him and planning dates, I really like my freedom. I am also just tired; I don’t want to go back to swiping and swiping, but I guess it is what it is now.
Seriously? Wow, fuck that, ver. I don’t understand why he’d ask you out and then go out of town without at least rainchecking first or something.
There are young professional networking events in my town. I have trouble separating “professional” and “personal” since I do need to make professional connections. Obviously both can be done but I’m too rigid.
How were drinks, @veritek? Cute story! I could really go for margaritas now.
@ale, I can see how the mom part makes it more complicated. I am sorry you have to go through this.Second date with the guy went really well. He’s just so flipping interesting. Intellectual but down-to-earth. Kind of nerdy but dresses really well in that hipster sort of way, ha ha. We had lunch, went to another place for tea, went to a free chamber music concert which was great and then got a drink!
I think it is in my nature to always have doubts in life, so I am really trying to enjoy this. I don’t know for sure if I see long term with this guy (is that in the back of your mind if that’s what you’re looking for? or is it too early?), but I also know I don’t want today to be the last time I see him. In my past (limited) experience, there were things about guys that I knew I didn’t like, but I kept going out with them hoping it would go away. With this guy, maybe he is a bit awkward, but it’s also endearing? I realize there is some risk of I just want to be friends with him, but I do find him attractive. We haven’t kissed yet, but we’ve only had day dates. We’ve already arranged dinner Wednesday night so I’ll see if there is more chemistry there.
Woohoo, MissDre! Hate the stress of booking plane flights. Do you browse in private viewing/incognito mode? How is Air Transat looking?
Guy texted me this evening asking me how my week went! Yes, it’s just a short text. But is it also nice to know that I’m on his mind? Yep! Unfortunately my texting skills are kind of horrendous and I know I take too long to respond. Also my phone ran out of battery and I didn’t have my charger with me.
((Sorry, thanks DWers for bearing with me through all these tiny details. I try to be less neurotic around my IRL friends.))
Lots to think about, thanks for the discussion! In the future I agree about the thanks part. In the past guys have been the first to text me so I never worried about it (I haven’t dated a lot so not a humble brag). Anyway in this case we had an afternoon date and then I messaged him on Bumble at night thanking him for coffee and then asked if he would like to get together next weekend for a free concert at an art gallery (we talked about classical music). Then I told him if he was interested to send me a text and I gave him my number (we hadn’t exchanged numbers).
So I was a bit more active in asking him out again but I also wanted to go to this concert. My hitch now is we said we’d do lunch before but we didn’t confirm place, since there are a bunch of restaurants in that area, and confirmation on time, which is my bad. I just didn’t want to plan so much in advance (… 6 days).
So I am really hoping on Thursday or Friday he will text and we will confirm that. Otherwise I will since I’m Type A like that, which is fine, but not a great indicator?
I’m excited about the date part though! Yay free music.
That’s so exciting Miss Dre! Easter seems like a perfect weekend. I think you’re doing the right thing letting him settle in first
@MissDre, yeah, that was part of my hesitation to text him first. I’ll definitely be gauging interest on Saturday.
@Ale continued support. I know it won’t be easy to end the relationship if you decide to do that, but at least now you have a better idea of this man.
Just a mini trivial update that I did message the guy and we’ve set up a second date Saturday! Need to firm up details and also stuff can change til then but good for now 🙂 Still nervous, but come what may!
That sounds like a difficult situation to be in Ale, sorry to hear it. I hope with further reflection and discussion with your boyfriend you will be able to decide on your path.
I just came back from my date. It’s only been an hour, but I have a feeling he won’t be messaging me back for a second date. I mean I hope this like reverse putting this out in the universe will happen and he will message me, but I don’t know. It sucks because he’s probably the first guy I’ve met from online that I actually know am interested in getting to know better. We had good conversation, no amazing sparks but still lots to talk about, but he gave no sign of wanting a second date. Anyway, maybe it’s an indication for -me- to be more interesting. I just hate that I’m waiting by my phone.
I have a first date tomorrow since September tomorrow! From Bumble. It’s just coffee. He essentially gave me the option of coffee or drinks by suggesting a place that does both and saying “let the timing determine if it will be coffee or drinks” and then asked what time worked for me. And I guess I was feeling more afternoon, although I wouldn’t have minded drinks/something to take the dge off.
But agh, what do I wear for a date in winter? I feel so out of practice of dating. I’m nervous, actually. He seems cute, maybe out of my league. But we will seeee!
Coincidental how there are co-worker posts now… I have developed a teensy crush on a co-worker, but I think it is because he is unattainable given the workplace (also I’m not really meeting any new guys right now). We don’t work in the same practice area but our offices are physically close together. Also it’s a small workplace so everyone is up in everyone’s biz. But we are the same “level” position. I don’t think he likes me that way anyway. It’s just interesting that he would not have caught my eye on the street, but after spending so much time with him that it’s his personality and everything that makes him cuter.
Another feeling single AF pile: all the couples costume photos on Facebook. And they’re good and cute not cheesy but ah, I guess this is 27 and on social media.
All the best with everything, @veritek! Congrats with CrossFit prom!
I just came back from a week vacation in Portugal for a destination wedding and feel amazing/reflective (also hungover). Yes, it was quite a destination, but the groom’s side is from Scotland and he has family in Portugal. My friend, the bride, is from Canada. Eight of us from high school made it out there. The groom moved to Canada and while there’s a lot of seriousness, still, it’s romantic moving for love (with the right considerations etc.).
It was just so refreshing spending days with friends again. It made me realize I want to be more interested and interesting. I want to get really fit (no, it’s not a be all and end all to insecurity but it will help). So I want to take a break from dating (well, more like swiping desperately). I don’t want to delete apps from phones but maybe that is the best way to stop. I hopefully will mutual fade with a guy I saw a few times before vacation. I liked the attention but I really don’t feel ready to go further.
Also, as a point of interest, basically all the groom’s Scottish friends were coupled off. They met in six-year med school program there and I guess they were all very productive/efficient and married each other (too bad as there were a few good looking Scotsmen!). But all the bride’s friends, male and female, were single, HA. Different cultures I guess?
