Kate
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Oh yeah, freckles, that’s a different thing. Not a sun damage thing, but genetic I guess? I’d like to do a couple things to my teeth too but haven’t gotten around to it.
I do enjoy a tinted sunscreen product! A foundation not so much, it can emphasize things I don’t want it to.
I did do laser tattoo removal of a dumb ugly tattoo I got at age 19 in a bus. Holy hell, did the laser shit hurt! I had 8 sessions, at $150 a pop, and it’s not completely gone. And this was for a small tattoo that originally probably cost $40.
I would advise the young folks that to avoid the need for any face lasering later in life, go crazy with the sunscreen, every day, and start using vitamin c serum and retinol in your 20s.
That’s great! Hope it had the result you want and makes you feel like your best self.
I guess surprisingly, I haven’t done anything like Botox or fillers or lasers, and most likely won’t, since I’m 47 at this point so if I was gonna do it, I would have done it. But I do professionally color my hair (very high end dye job) and keep it in a cut that’s youthful, and get blowouts. And dress “young” and wear makeup and stuff.I can’t imagine carrying this burden around of being mentally tortured by the idea of your spouse having a sexual past. Half a century ago, no less. Please continue to get help. This is a you problem. This is the fragile male ego and it’s dangerous.
Well, I do think someone who’s being abused might have fantasies of their spouse dying, because there’s no other way out of the relationship. And maybe there are some special circumstances here, like he’s super religious and feels there’s no way out of a marriage? Though he’s been divorced before, so idk. But having those thoughts should be a huge alarm bell and wake up call that you’re not in the right marriage and need immediate help. I really do hope he’s getting help and will be honest with the therapist.
And none of us are advocating for any barriers to getting medical help or attention, where are you getting that? I think you should be able to see a doctor and get meds in as little as a day, just not sure it IS that easy.
I really don’t think many men are having these feelings that it would make their lives easier if their wives and kids died.
I think people with anxiety think about their families dying, like in a fearful way. I think a lot of people with depression think it would be easier if THEY died.
When someone says they want out of a marriage and it would be easier if the family died, that’s… not normal.
“I don’t think it’s normal or okay for a man to be thinking about his family that way.”
Agree, especially because it is white men in their 30s who statistically do those kinds of crimes. You and me and Leslie aren’t the demographic who has those thoughts and might actually ever act on them. Have you seen any documentary stuff about Chris Watts?
I haven’t either. I’m not a parent, but I’ve been married twice and had another long-term relationship. Have always been the one doing the breaking up. Have never thought about my life being easier if they died. My intrusive thoughts are usually like I want to punch someone, or I’m scares my husband will have a heart attack while racing.
I meant he got that appointment and help very quickly after writing in. Technically possible, but you know that we get folks on here say they are doing exactly what commenters told them to do, but actually didn’t.
PCPs can provide antidepressants, but yeah, that did seem quick.
Right, there is no emotional connection being communicated here. She’s “sweet,” and they have sex regularly. There’s not even a longing for an emotional connection that existed in the past.
this is really off to me.
