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  • September 7, 2023 at 7:18 am #1125331

    And @theladyE, they should be talking to you about those risks. It may be why they put you on that lower-dose pill. For me it was because I was 35+ they put me on a different one to lessen the risk of stroke/clotting. I think that’s true for everyone, normal weight or not.

    September 7, 2023 at 7:15 am #1125330

    And then a few years ago I was having other weird alarming issues that i honestly can’t remember right now, so I just stopped taking the pill. I don’t know if it’s really understood or recommended to have women taking it continuously for years in their 30s and 40s. Probably not the best option for everyone. An IUD might be better.

    Since I went off it, my period came back heavier, more frequent, and with more mood issues / pms, but I haven’t experienced anything weird or scary. It’s like, at this point how does the risk of me actually getting pregnant compare with the risk of a serious health issue.

    September 7, 2023 at 4:41 am #1125329

    In my late 30s I had a few of those “ocular migraines,” not a headache but the shimmer aura for a half hour and messed up vision. One day I got to work and had some kind of aphasia where I could read words but not make sense. I thought I was having a stroke. Looking back I’m sure this was the pill. They had put me on a lower dose but still.

    August 18, 2023 at 6:08 am #1124936

    You are ok. To me this sounds more like you need to get treatment for anxiety or some other underlying condition, as opposed to having a problem tangibly with what happened that night. I think you should talk to a therapist about this and work on strategies to stop beating yourself up about something that happened 2 years ago and to get your anxiety controlled.

    You were inexperienced and drank too much and did something you wouldn’t have done sober. You blacked out. Your drink wasn’t spiked. You just didn’t know your limits and drank to excess and blacked out and did something you didn’t realize you did. I had similar experiences when young. You need to just use it as a learning experience about your tolerance and move on and not drink like that again.

    So you made out with a stranger. Ok. Were you in danger? Potentially, yes, you could have been raped, but it sounds like your friends were keeping a close eye on you and that didn’t happen. Deal with the “what if” feeling by understanding that you are in control of your drinking and you will not get like that again. Definitely do practice awareness and safety with your beverages, because yes, there’s a real threat someone could put something in your drink. But just educate yourself on how to be safe, and make it a habit to moderate your drinking and be aware of your surroundings.

    This in itself is not a big deal, your mind is blowing it up for some reason and I think you need a little help.

    August 17, 2023 at 11:29 am #1124923

    Ok sorry I misunderstood that you were talking about your son, and that you also have a daughter. You just have a daughter. I went back to your previous post from 6 months ago and you said this man has hit you in the past. You NEED to get in touch with a women’s DV shelter for advice, this is incredibly serious.

    August 17, 2023 at 5:38 am #1124892

    Also, does he have texts from you where you talk about harming yourself, your son, or your daughter (where is she, by the way)? If so, that might give him a basis on which to challenge your custody. A women’s organization will be able to give you legal advice. Please don’t make any sudden moves unless you’re in immediate danger, and even then, call for help.

    August 17, 2023 at 5:29 am #1124891

    I mean, no, if you have full custody he can’t legally do anything, but he sounds like a jerk and maybe abusive so I think before you do anything you really need to work out a plan with people who know about these things. You should contact an organization for women who need protection from domestic abuse and work through a plan to get away from your ex safely.

    The other thing is you have to have a safe and secure place to take your son. And if you’re struggling mentally you need to get help. So I urge you to contact a women’s organization and find out what resources are available to you and how to safely extricate yourself and your son out of this home and into a safe one.

    August 16, 2023 at 6:44 pm #1124888

    It doesn’t sound like you’re in the US and I only know how things work in the US, but as a people manager who takes annual harassment training and inclusive interactions training, I can tell you that what he did was absolutely an HR issue. It’s harassment to put someone down on the basis of a protected characteristic, and your company should take it seriously and not tolerate it.

    Were any of the bystanders who observed this a people manager? If so, they are actually obligated to report it, so if they didn’t that’s not cool. Even if they’re not people managers, they should have done the right thing and gone to HR.

    Does your company have an HR policy on harassment? Go to the intranet and look it up. Read about how they deal with harassment. I think they are obligated to deal with your complaint and then come back to you and explain the resolution. There’s a period of time where they have to look into it and corroborate with others and determine how widespread it is, so you need to be a little patient. If your complaint is the only one, I think they would talk to him about it and let him know he cannot say things like that. It would likely just be a discussion and reprimand. They would not fire him unless they looked into it and found a pattern of harassment and abuse, or he’d done something so egregious it was a fireable offense on its own.

    So what’s likely to happen is they’ll come back and let you know they talked to him and assure you this won’t happen again. If they don’t, something is wrong with that company. Unfortunately he’s probably not going anywhere though, and you may want to start looking around for other jobs if you can’t stand working for him.

    August 14, 2023 at 10:57 am #1124737

    Oh dear. That’s sad.

    I have noticed some young women, maybe interns, maybe not, wearing extremely short dresses, like probably that’s just what they own / are used to wearing and they don’t realize. I think for the guys it’s easier and if they don’t have a lot of work clothes they can wear the same outfits on repeat.

    August 14, 2023 at 5:51 am #1124721

    Yeah I was at lunch Friday with two people born in this century. One of them (21 y/o intern, the son of one of my peers on an adjacent team, comes across like he’s 14, has ADHD and can’t stop talking) was telling me all his fave movies though, and they’re all from the 80s and 90s. This kid… Friday was his last day and after lunch my friend who supervises him had to go pick up her kids from camp, so I was joking that I was going to give him a ton of stuff to do. But then he was sitting next to me talking nonstop about all his favorite sub-reddits 😭 and showing me memes on his phone. He went to the intern goodbye thing but got bored after 5 minutes. I told him to go home. It truly is like babysitting a child who’s a handful. That said, our intern last year was an absolute superstar and we’ve hired him.

    August 14, 2023 at 4:53 am #1124719

    It struck me how there are people on my work team now whose mom I could easily be. Not just if I had a teen pregnancy, but if I had a kid at 25 or 26. And it doesn’t seem that long ago that I was that age and going out 3 nights in a row.

    August 14, 2023 at 4:44 am #1124718

    Sex education AND access to effective contraceptives you can get without involving your parents.

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