Kate
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Yeah, literally the only thing to do here is just end it. You’re very long distance. You were fighting a lot. He cheated on you. He was fine with you taking a break. He doesn’t seem to want to get back together. He now has a baby mama.
Plus he’s lied lied lied to you. There is almost no chance this was a one night stand. He’s probably been in a relationship with someone else or at least sleeping with someone else for a while now. He didn’t think you were over, he knew he was cheating. He got someone pregnant and didn’t tell you.
This relationship is dead. There’s nothing to fight for. You have a great life and a bright future and aren’t tied down with kids at 21. Just live your life and enjoy it.
Ok Suzanna, no more attention for you. Be well.
At this point, forget advice forums and seek religious help, like an exorcism of whatever has taken possession of your mind. You keep talking about sociopath this and evil that and selfish this and drunk abusive that… it’s all projection. You appear to be all of those things. It’s you, Suzanna, not them.
Wait, so he was so incredibly hurt that she left that voicemail, that it caused him to do a 180 and be glad that she’s out of his life? That really makes no sense, it’s like you don’t grasp how normal human emotions work. You can spin this however you want, but YOU are the one who feels like “good riddance.” Not him. I truly hope you are not sending him the message that you feel like “good riddance” or that he should feel that way.
So if he thinks men should be able to handle their own problems I guess he’s not going to that anger management program then.
And yeah, looks like you found yourself another abusive alcoholic.
@B, I understand why you might feel like that, but that’s a really unhealthy and damaging way to think about yourself and other women. First of all, there are plenty of single or divorced men in their 50s and 60s. You don’t have to be with one who doesn’t think much of you or who you have domestic violence with. That’s just good old fashioned insecurity and inertia, which happens at every age. And even if there weren’t a lot of men to choose from? Be single! Be okay with yourself. Go on dates. Don’t tie yourself down with someone who’s not even into you. Ditch this narrative. Be better.
Seriously, Suzanna, I don’t know you obviously, but the way you’re presenting yourself here is monstrous and deranged in a way I don’t think I’ve ever seen in a DW poster.
No, none of this is my issues, it’s about you. My parents are happily married 47 years. I have no kids. I’ve never been in an abusive relationship. I was married and divorced in my 20s but now married again to a guy with no kids. Nice try though.
Yeah, that’s what I want, you monster, to say “I told you so” to an abused woman. Your perceptions of everything are so distorted by the ugliness inside you, I don’t know if you can be helped. I’ve never said anything like that to a poster on here. Something is very deeply wrong with you.
“I’ll just have to wait and see,” said every woman who was hospitalized and/or killed by an abuser.
And you don’t understand that different kids in a family – of different ages – may be affected differently by events?
“What does that say about him? That he finally grew a pair.”
No, if it were actually true that he’s over his youngest child lashing out and cutting him off, after a couple of weeks, and no longer cares, it would say that he’s an emotionless, cold, unnatural human being with some disturbing things going on inside. I don’t actually think it’s true, I think he’s covering up and burying his feelings. But the idea that you think it’s true that he’s just over it and doesn’t care suggests a lot of the same things about you.
He’s not “over” his youngest child cutting him off. Do you really believe that? And if you do, what does that say about him? And you?
