Kate
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It’s fine, everyone here feels strongly about their position. Nobody needs to feel bad or be offended.
I haven’t totally followed who’s allegedly mocking whom, but Fyodor, if you’re saying Anonymousse mocked you, that is some bs when you’re regularly jumping onto someone’s post who’s genuinely upset, to make a dad joke.
Also, I’ve had a sixth sense through the internet, since at least 2004, lol. It’s how I got this job.
So they’ve only been together a few years. You’ve been on this site long enough to see countless letters from women who moved in with or got engaged to someone, only to realize there were serious issues or even abuse. Saying yes to a proposal doesn’t mean the proposer is a great guy or the relationship is healthy. Obviously it’s not. Sure, I suppose this could be all about some cultural issue the parents have, though I think he would have mentioned that. I DON’T think he would have mentioned any controlling or abusive addictive tendencies he might have.
Just to let this one go: I don’t think you can “will” a human being either. I’m sure there would need to be some kind of custody battle in court. And if it’s just about religious differences then I think he’s fine.
“I don’t believe one can, nor should be able to, ‘will’ a human being to one’s parents, when there is another active co-parent in the picture.”
There actually is a list of reasons you can Google, as to why a parent would not be awarded custody.
Holy crap, Ron, there was nothing in the letter that suggested anything about cultural or religious differences.
There were a few things that suggested this relationship is not on healthy footing and lacks trust on both sides.
I’m going with what’s actually in the letter, that she doesn’t trust him or want to marry him. And I want to know why.
Like, what’s more likely, this woman is batshit crazy and/or being brainwashed by her insane parents well into her 40s? .., Or she has some legitimate concerns about her baby’s well being?
“ He seems utterly confused about why she is doing this. From just what is in the original post, she hasn’t told him why. If it were something like drugs, alcoholism, anger/violence or refusal to do what a parent of an infant needs to do to care for the infant, then I think she would have told him why, ”
He may have left out a lot of context that would explain why the mother of his child would decide she thinks it would be better for her parents to raise their child.
Should have gotten married before you decided to have kids and buy a house though. Because now your daughter is in this position.
You probably would get custody, as you say, but something’s really extremely wrong if your partner doesn’t think you should.
How do you know she’s doing something awful that she has no right to do? Do you know that this guy isn’t a danger to his child in some way? Not in any way irresponsible? That he’s not using drugs? That he’s completely capable of raising a daughter by himself? That he doesn’t have anger issues? That he’s in fact an excellent dad?
How do you know that?
Pensions= England. In the US, only people your / my parents age have pensions.
