Kate

Fuck off, Hans.

Oh come on Anonymousse. He’s a stupid little twatty keyboard warrior and a liar who lies. Chin up.

Hell, ima say it one more time. If I told a guy I had no feelings for him but we could still hang out, and then he came to my door after partying and proceeded to tell me he was getting a lot of attention from the ladies and what did I think of that… and THEN told me I better not get into a relationship with another guy, I’d be so done at that point. I’d be like, ugh, what an immature creep.

And no, it wasn’t a joke, Hans. First of all, Guy Friday called you out on that already. We know what you really meant. Second, last night you said it was your “logical response.” Only just now you said it was a joke. It wasn’t. And even if it was, inappropriate.

I think that after she told you she felt nothing for you, you 1) several times initiated physical contact – kissing, cuddling, you said in your first post you wanted to have sex but she said she had her period, trying to come in and “watch tv” after you showered, going in for a kiss after talking, etc. and 2) you had a what sounds like a really obnoxious conversation with her when you were drunk, wherein you bragged about all this female attention you just got, which was very much a pain in the ass thing to do, but she played it off like, ok, you’re free, I’m free, and then you gave her shit for being interested in another guy. From her point of view, I bet you were being super annoying.

Okay, Hans, I guess IRL you never shout, tell people to fuck off, or call them derogatory names. You did say, though, that you always end up angry at the girls who break it off with you, though.

Anyway, this: “if you tell me you want to stay friends, still want to go out on dates, to parties, let me sleep over, chill at my place, i will get in on that.“

Well, it’s a bit problematic because, before saying that, she told you she felt nothing for you. So in all honesty, yeah, it’s weird that you wanted to carry on doing all that stuff. It sounds like you don’t care the least bit what her feelings are, you just want to keep trying to get at the sex. To further that point, you never mentioned any actual date-like hangouts, but you carefully detailed each occasion that you were supposedly about to hook up. I for one do think it’s sketchy that you hear “I feel nothing for you,” and think, “cool, let’s cuddle!” Like she’s just a cuddle doll. Doesn’t matter that there’s zero connection.

Next point… I’m not 100% sure of the timing, but it sounds like AFTER that conversation where she told you you could still hang out, you knocked on her door and had another conversation? During which you got on her case about another guy, and told her to tell him she wasn’t interested in anything serious? If so, you should be able to see it’s likely that your behavior after the initial conversation may have caused her to reconsider ever hanging out with you again. Because she hasn’t. And a person’s actions tell you much more than their words. Whatever she may have originally said, she obviously has changed her mind, and you seem to think it’s not ok for her to have done so.

He actually even dead-ass said he always gets dumped and it ends in drama and him being angry at the girl. That kind of anger at women becomes apparent pretty quickly and makes them shut you down. And you end up a lonely, angry, men’s rights keyboard warrior.