Kate
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I guess I’m not surprised that he was always where he said he’d be, as that was his work schedule and probably no reason to lie about it. But he sounded to me like a guy who had different women in different places where he was either based or visited regularly, and / or was a big Tinder Tourist. That whole thing where he’d suddenly block you was a sign of that kind of BS.
You’re not ready to break it off – you said it. So don’t, yet. I’m not sure that you’ll be happy long term with this guy, but don’t break it off now if you don’t want to.
Or he’s just a self-centered jerk…
Saying he’s immature implies he may grow up if she waits around.
It’s not just about the angst. He literally told her what’s going to happen, and that it would happen in about 8 months’ time. Like, okay, be hurt now, but CUT IT OFF because if you’re this messed up after a couple weeks, how do you think you’re going to feel in a year?
Also, ffs! He HAS thought about how he’d handle it. He TOLD her. Literally cannot.
“…agonizing about this for over a week and crying herself to sleep at night because of it.”
This is crazytown. After dating this guy for a week, she was agonizing and crying herself to sleep? Truly bananas. I can’t.
Okay, no. It’s only been 2 weeks. She should move on right now. He’s doing her a favor telling her so early on that his parents are not going to be okay with her (they’re not. He knows it, you know it, I know it) and that he’d “side with them.” She needs to thank him for his transparency and NOT continue “getting to know him.”
“Finally it comes out this week that he says that in the end his parents are the most influential people in his life and, after my sister pressed him on it, that if his parents didn’t approve of his girlfriend he would ultimately side with them and end the relationship.”
No.
It was hot and summery in New England all fall (and my work building shut the AC off so I was dying), and today it’s 40mph winds and in the 30s. Not a lot of real fall weather, which is disappointing!
Ale, it’s not a friend date, you two ran into each other on Tinder. He’s interested. Are you sure you don’t want to tell him you’ll be in touch when you’re ready to date, but you just got out of a relationship and not feeling ready yet? I only say that because you keep saying you’re not ready, you just want to meet friends, etc, see what’s out there, and if you’re really not ready, you could blow your shot with this guy by freaking out or something.
I don’t think you have to feel at all excited, but you shouldn’t feel like, “I literally cannot.”
Then don’t go, it’s fine. You don’t want to.
I don’t think it’s about “how excited,” I think it’s about, do I *not want* to go on a second date with this guy? Can I not see myself kissing him, ever? Can I not see myself at some point introducing him as my boyfriend?
