Kate
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Did someone look in a dark mirror and say KATE 50x?
All set.
Good, glad he’s helping and you told the guy NO.
Yeah, I know, that’s all understandable. The parts that worried me were, feeling that this guy knows your worth after meeting you two or three times, his not seeming to respect your boundaries, you feeling like a jerk because of it… definitely put that guy in the circular file and stop engaging. I wouldn’t even reach out once you’re feeling better – he sounds like a bad bet.
How did you find this therapist? I wonder if you wouldn’t be better off with one who’s more familiar with the dynamics of modern dating.
Yeah but Ale, even though he didn’t say that, he’s still acting creepy, pushing her to keep seeing him when she said she’s not ready, talking about “us,” complaining that she’s too busy when she saw him 2-3x in a week. It’s weird.
I know he never said that. I would like for *you* to see that none of this is about your worth. Look, there were job interviews I was excited about and hoped to get an offer. There were guys I went on 3-4 dates with and was really excited about but they weren’t feeling it. None of those instances meant anything about my worth… just, the fit wasn’t mutual, or there was a stronger candidate. That’s life. When I found a job or a LTR, that didn’t mean my worth was then validated. I was always a human being worthy of love and employment. None of this proved that either way, it was always true.
Now again, 5 years ago, but I met a better caliber of quality men on Match and that weird, also paid, sister site chemistry.com, than I ever did on OKC. In fact, though I know there were MORE guys on OKC, I went on fewer dates from there and was less interested in the guys I met.
I mean, I’m a Match believer, but I’ve only heard negative things on here recently about it (my experience was 5 years ago). I would say give it a try, it’s probably a little different depending on where you live. I always think paid sites have less time-wasters than free sites or apps.
Yeah, that’s bizarre. I only check frequently if people post frequently. Do you add to your stories?
And I guess don’t rule out mental health issues!
I’m with Ange on the matter of being engaged prior to moving in with him, but not married. You may disagree, but I don’t think you’d have all the knowledge and experience of him that you need in order to make a marriage decision until you’ve spent a significant chunk of everyday life with him, day in and day out, not just visits where he may be going to work during the week that you’re there. I think going over there with an engagement commitment gives you enough official-ness but doesn’t lock either of you in while you figure out your life together.
Oh yeah, then she knows. No need to take any action. Ha!
Yeah it’s fascinating and amazing until the Russians get ahold of it and manipulate our presidential election.
I basically sell shopper insights to Google to help their advertisers do that stuff even better 😉
She might not even know that stories show who looked at them. Or she clicked by accident and is cringing.
I don’t think it matters too much what you post. There are a couple people I check up on and judge, and their Instagram are objectively totally boring. I like to keep it locked up… but also I was raised by a mom who went through my shit.
