Kate
Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
Also, the stuff I’m doing in my new job is very focused on digital advertising, search, etc. Ssocial media companies track all your online activities and target info and ads to you based on where you go, who you are friends with, what you’re interested in. It’s pretty creepy once you get into it in depth. They own you.
That’s good! When I had my first date with my husband, there was nothing that made me “excited” to go on the date, but when I did, it was a good time. I also left to take the dog out 🙂
There are so many problems with social media. From the aggressive anti-Hillary fake news that we now know was rampant on Facebook before and during the election and could be custom-targeted via the platform, to privacy concerns re: kids’ pictures, to bullying and harming people, to people showing up somewhere where you checked in, to “stalking,” to plain old jealousy.
All I have now is a private Instagram with like 50 people, and I’ve found I’ve been in touch a lot more via text and actually going out for dinner or drinks with people IRL. I may get rid of insta too. I just think social media causes more problems than it’s worth. If you have a public insta or a lot of things shared publicly on FB, it’s pretty certain that people like your ex’s wife will look at it. She’s probably been doing so for a while, among others. If that makes you uncomfortable, you could go private.
Yay, Massachusetts! Obviously not New Hampshire, that “drug-infested den.”
Probably because women are expected to change their name upon marriage so it’s a simple procedure, whereas if a guy wants to change his name it’s like, I now want to legally be someone else, and I have to explain why.
Ok, it’s absurd that your fiancé doesn’t care about that.
Totally agree.
PS, actually I’m curious too… If you couldn’t inherit the property without your maiden name, why didn’t you keep it before?
He should be able to articulate something like that to you if that’s an issue that he has. Everyone on here thinks he’s being an asshole about it, and you’re reluctant to move forward. I think you should tell him you don’t get it and are reluctant to move forward.
If you said, look, I feel strongly about this. It’s about my identity, and about keeping property in the family, and I am going to change my name to First Middle Maiden Yours after we’re married, what would he do? Not marry you?
What’s his reasoning for not budging on it? Just to be clear, he says he’s not ok with you having 2 last names, his + yours, and wants you to give up your maiden name? Why?
I like to think I wouldn’t be dating a guy who insisted I take his name. I’d hear him out on the kids’ name, but my name is not his issue.
That thing about “giving up” your maiden name for the other guy but not for him is creepy too.
Yeah, I mean, I’ve been married twice. You just calmly explain what you’re thinking and what it means to you, in a neutral setting like when you’re taking a walk. I’m with everyone else who says if he won’t budge and insists that you and your kids take his name and his name only (even if they disinherit land), then something is really wrong with him. He’s probably an old-fashioned ass in other ways too.
Let’s not come on here and call people names, like “Pumpkin.” Or tell people to screw themselves.
