Kate
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Omfg I just had a panic attack. I have an interview Tuesday for an internal promotion. It’s a Zoom panel interview but then I thought, what if I end up needing to go in the office, and maybe it would be better to do it in a conf room anyway, more reliable WiFi and profesh setting. So I thought, ok, I can go into Boston today and find a new outfit. Like a suit or a coordinated jacket and pants. As recently as 2019 you could go in stores like Ann Taylor, Banana, J Crew maybe, Loft, department stores, and they’d have a petites work section with all coordinating shit. Not anymore!!! First of all BOTH Ann Taylor and Loft are closed permanently in Prudential. Banana had weird looking suits and hardly any petites. J Crew had no petites in store and no suit type outfits. Same at Anthropologie. I can’t wear standard pants! And Saks and Nieman Marcus and Zara, I couldn’t even tell what was going on in there. So I was really freaking out. But I went home and tried on my blue Ann Taylor suit from 3 years ago and it’s actually okay, I thought the pants were too tight but they work. And I have nice nude-color pumps, and my mom texted me 4 different tops she has that will go with the suit.
Point of this is, if you have an interview, plan ahead and order a bunch of stuff online, particularly if you’re petite or tall or plus. They didn’t have shit for sizes in the stores. I was focusing too much on the interview questions and the strategy decks and not enough on clothes, which isn’t like me. But thank god I do have a blue suit.
I don’t think I’ve had it because I sat next to my symptomatic boss for an hour and she tested positive the next day. And then I tested at home for 7 straight days and always negative. Like, if I’m not catching it from that, I’m not catching it.
I’ve been sick twice but both times it was something my husband brought back from a work trip and we both tested negative multiple times.
Thinking about it more, girls/women who were really pissed at me at various times in my life have called me ugly. They definitely wanted me to get really upset. What are they gonna do if you just say “so?” One of them was my boyfriend’s ex who was trying to friend me on FB so she could message me and probably tell me a whole bunch of shit.
Jesus, what is up with neighbors calling each other fat??? It’s probably a power play, where you think “fat” is the most incendiary thing you can say to someone and you want that reaction. Thinking about it, that neighbor called me short. I was about 115 lbs at the time so fat wouldn’t work, but short is accurate. Like clearly she was trying to be overtly and aggressively insulting. To intimidate us I guess and establish dominance. Which is why I think the EAP person’s advice to just act unbothered, have a party out on our deck, not back down or be afraid of her, was good. Being offended about being called short, or fat, and yelling back at her I don’t think would have been effective. I think she wanted to see us upset.
My husband and I are both very assertive people, but engaging with this lady made us targets. When you’re dealing with someone unhinged / serious mental health issues, going off doesn’t have the result it would with a regular person who’s just acting up.
ETA what was important was *strategy*. I have no idea what the strategy would be with this guy, but for us it was appearing unbothered, enjoying our deck, showing her threats didn’t matter, and then getting ourselves voted onto the condo board so we could shape rules. And also so there would BE a condo board so that we could sell.
They should not engage, imo. I will say, whoever I talked to from my EAP had some good insights.
Yeah, this doesn’t get talked about enough, but I’ve been through this and had to move. We bought a condo in 2015 and realized pretty quickly our neighbor on the right was a nightmare. Nothing like this guy, but she was threatening and fucked with stuff and I was afraid she’d hurt my dog. We sold after less than 3 years and fortunately broke even after the commission. It was new gut reno so kinda like a new car you pay a premium for that.
Anyway, if I were you I wouldn’t get involved. Have them talk to the other neighbors to get more insight, and see if they can consult with a lawyer through their EAP.
My mom was just tryna go to school one day and her dad was going to hit her and she had to hide in the bathroom to not get hit.
Right, most of history for women was like, having to marry some guy and have a lot of babies. Until hormonal birth control in our mothers’ lifetimes, there weren’t a lot of options. Both my grandmothers went to college and had aspirations, but the only thing really in the cards for them was to be the wife of a business guy and have kids. And before that, people weren’t really sending girls to college. My great-grandmother really wanted to go to college but her dad wasn’t willing to let her go even though he paid for her brother to go. She ended up going and begging the neighbor farmers for money to go to college just to embarrass her father, and then he relented. I think she got to be an engineer for a while, of all things, but then, you guessed it, housewife. And her daughter actually went to grad school and wanted to be an actress, but she ended up with my sexist ass of a grandfather who treated her like a child. And she had to keep having kids until she had a boy, my uncle who’s such a tool.
My gggrandmother was kidnapped as a little girl by some childless woman, and they never stopped looking for her, I think they had a PI, and somehow he found her in this couple’s sod house some years later. At that time, she thought these people were her parents and didn’t want to go with her real parents.
Edit: I just remembered that this kid was an absolute terror and the people who kidnapped her couldn’t even handle her. I think they were almost relieved when the real mom showed up. I think the people who had her weren’t the people who stole her, actually, they were duped in an adoption scam, and when the real mom showed up, the adopted mom was like, “I somehow knew this day would come.” It’s been a while since I heard this story but yeah, I think those are the facts. Ok no, it was the lady that stole her, who couldn’t deal with her, and SHE gave her to this couple. They knew it wasn’t right but they really wanted a kid. And then she got really attached to them.
Then when she was old, my dad remembers that she thought everyone on TV was Andy Williams, and she’d go out every day for a walk and not come back until she found a 4-leaf clover. She’d also, like, hoist up her boobs and be like, “these weigh 50 pounds!”
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Did they want to have kids in the second relationship? Seems like they did, or they wouldn’t have.
What do guys get out of having two families? I don’t understand how that’s attractive at all.
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