Kate
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You’re definitely not alone, but yes, that is serious depression. It’s telling you you can’t do the things you need to do to get out of it, like see a therapist, try meds, take walks, practice good sleep hygiene, and eat reasonable portions of nourishing food. I think you can beat this because you have felt good before. You really should take the next step and find a therapist. Maybe your mom or sister could help with that if you tell your insurance provider they can talk to them.
Milani eye primer in a light grey tube is great too and cheap.
I’ve gotten this shit in my eyeball and it didn’t even sting.
Yeah that happened my eyelashes too! You need to try the Essy Naturals lash serum in the black tube on Amazon. It’s inexpensive for a lash serum and really works.
My boss either doesn’t wear primer or has oily skin and/or rubs her eyes and her liner goes everywhere. Better to wear none than that.
I personally like to throw on a minimum of some concealer, mascara, blush, and tinted balm for work. I tend to wear one eye shadow color and a bb cream as well. But plenty of people wear little or none and it’s fine. I’m just… older and easily washed-out looking.
Agree, you can’t comment on anyone’s body at work, and really even outside of work. I’m basically okay with my husband or my mom saying they noticed I lost weight because they knew I was trying to, but that’s it. I am a person who was always “tiny,” or “skinny,” and hearing it all my life kind of made it feel like my identity, so it was rough last year when I gained some weight. And yeah, someone could lose weight and it could be because they’re sick or have disordered eating, and commenting on it could not be good. This is not to say it shouldn’t feel good to you if someone compliments what they know is your intentional weight loss, but unless they’re very close to you they shouldn’t be saying it.
Ugh, offices have too, and it gets passed around. I’m sorry, I hope you don’t all get it and Joanie makes a full recovery.
@LadyE, what is a full face of makeup? I feel like that means full glam, or a night look. There’s also, like, a 5-minute face for day. I think it’s fine to not wear makeup for work, but there’s a lot of ground in between none and a full face.
I do think it’s fine to compliment someone on their outfit or hair. Like, female co-workers will tell me they like my sweater on zoom. Or I saw a woman in the elevator and said “that’s a pretty dress.” I told a male colleague he looked nice – he was in slacks, dress shoes, and a pressed button-down. And as for hair, if I’ve styled mine that day and wearing it down, people will say “your hair looks great!” Or someone will get a haircut and people will notice.
Where I’ve noticed it gets weird: A colleague with curly hair wears it straight one day and everyone makes a huge fuss. Or someone with natural hair keeps getting asked about their texture or braids (or asked to touch it!). Or a male colleague comments on a woman’s clothing – just don’t. I probably shouldn’t even have told that guy on my team he looked nice. I meant dressy and finance-appropriate, but it honestly didn’t need to be said.
I think people like compliments, but it can get tricky pretty quick.
Maybe go to CVS and get the PCR to be sure?
Well yeah, I have wavy frizzy hair and I’m very conscious of it looking like shit in hot weather, but what kind of asshole says “nice hair” to someone with frizz on a humid day? GFY buddy.
Those are micro-aggressions, and just generally inappropriate. The hair one is also just super rude and insulting, but any comment about curly hair is a micro-aggression, usually toward minorities. Good for you by calling it out as inappropriate as best you could by just staring.
