Kate
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I wonder if he has had sex? I feel like it’s not a given that he did with his ex.
Don’t forget sitting on his lap.
Yeah at this point I can’t say *not* incel. For a while I thought, well, he stays very respectful to all the women in this forum telling him what to do and doesn’t get angry at us… but there’s clearly so much anger and belittling of women in general.
You’ve put off literally everyone in this thread. Those of us still giving advice just have some problem where we like banging our head against a wall. Most people have bailed. It’s 100% your attitude, Robert.
This whole thing about women being unreasonable and demanding when it comes to physical affection crossed into an uncomfortable area that does feel controlling, slut-shaming, and misogynystic.
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Groundhog Day.
So I’ll say it again, you are not getting dates because you’re rigid, myopic, not transparent (about your job, what you want), and don’t make women feel seen.
It is so telling that, instead of saying, oh wow, let me ask some questions here to try to better understand where women are coming from, your response is always to go back to, well, this is how *I* am, and the women must be like *this*. You’re only capable of seeing your own viewpoint and jumping to conclusions about others. Like when told that women feel unsafe, you dismissed it with, well, I would never do anything to make a woman feel unsafe, and anyway there are cameras everywhere. You had no interest whatsoever in understanding the very valid reasons women may feel unsafe, and what you could do to make them comfortable.
Oh, one more thing: those women who lost interest within 3 months? For heaven’s sake, they stuck with you LONG after that 3 date window that most people want to kiss or get off the pot. They gave you many many chances. But nothing physical happened, AND they weren’t feeling like they wanted to wait around. The chemistry was not there for them. It’s actually quite common for relationships to end at the 2-3 month mark. You’ve dated long enough to get to know the person pretty well, and you have the info you need to conclude there’s a future or there isn’t. No one needs to stick around longer than 3 months to know if it’s worth it or not.
Wow, Robert.
The point of profiles is so that you can meet someone online who you might like to see offline. That’s literally it. People used to go to bars or church or get introduced by their friends, but that only exposed you to a small pool of people. Online profiles expose you to a huge pool of people you wouldn’t otherwise meet. Duh.
And yes, most people either feel like they want to kiss a person within the first few dates, or they realize within a few dates that there’s not sufficient attraction and it’s time to move on. We’ve said this hundreds of times so I’m not sure why it’s blowing your mind right now. And honestly, if a woman likes you, she will stick around after more than a few dates. See my next post. They’re not cutting things off at 3 dates if they’re enjoying your company but you haven’t kissed them yet.
That is the norm. You are not in the norm with needing to wait for some deep connection before a kiss. But is this even relevant now, at age 48? You’re not making it to a first date most of the time, right? And if you do, you’re not making it to a second. So maybe back up and focus on what is going wrong during the messaging stage or on the actual first date. Trust me, it’s not because you’re not kissing women on a first date that they don’t want to go out again.
And finally, we could all have done without hearing about guys being aroused when they see us on the street going about our business. Bleh.
Thank you to all who voted for my dog! He got third place, which is still a prize bag with bully stick and toys. And the people who work there told us they thought he had the best costume. I can understand “Snoop Dog” winning, although I side-eye it a bit, but a golden retriever dressed as a bougie piece of sushi won first place?? Her mom must be an influencer. The dog herself only has 266 followers.
PS you don’t have to be over 50 to feel crazy and be sweaty all the time. And get your period every 3 weeks.
