Kate
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Jeff, it’s icky. You push her to come home (we’ve established she felt pushed). You then put a burden on her by asking what she wants. And you can’t perform because you’re nervous, because it’s a first date. It’s just… that’s bad. Don’t make her tell you what she likes, especially if you can’t deliver. Just take it slow, do stuff, ask her is this ok, take her cues.
Anonymousse doesn’t hate you, they just think you’re wrong. It’s not personal.
Yeah and you’re more likely to get the benefit of the doubt if you’ve built up some capital on a few dates.
4 full pages to get to whiskey dick?
Ooof.
It’s not that confusing, Jeff, and I’m saying that as someone who met their spouse online dating in a large Northeastern city.
You ask. You communicate. You can’t be a 30-something male in 2023 and be saying that consent is confusing.
Jeff, you’re escalating your aggression here and it’s weird.
The takeaway is you were pushy. You’re being pushy here too.
I don’t care enough to do forensics on it Jeff.
We do think you did something wrong, by asking twice to go home with you. And 3 drinks for a woman is a lot.
When I say “there it is,” I mean, there’s the real Jeff.
Your original post was written to make you appear polite, thoughtful (all those ellipses), and genuinely seeking advice to improve your dating success and your interactions with women.
But what you really wanted to hear was that it varies by woman so you really did nothing wrong.
What you did not want was for a bunch of women to tell you what you could have done differently or better.
Carry on!
And there it is.
