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“Now after several problems with our marriage, and just going through the motions for a few years, he asked for a divorce.”

You should probably get divorced.

If I remember the Gift of Fear correctly, it’s better to just get a new phone. Any interaction is just engaging with the stalker (presumably after you’ve told them to stop)

@Teri Anne @Stephanie,

This question was posted by someone who isn’t welcome to post questions because this person has compulsively written in with made-up questions. Some of the questions have been fairly intense and these made up threads have taken up a lot of time and thought from DW regulars.

She is considered a bit of a sideshow. I thought you should know so you don’t put too much energy into a fictional post or judge the tone of regular commenters who can recognize her.

@anonymous- I’m impressed you are a real-life fisher. Also, moving with toddlers can be brutal. I hope you enjoy settling into your new home.

* overthinking edited

@Hhans, Internet advice forums can be helpful. But they aren’t a cliff-notes alternative for counseling. You aren’t typically with trained therapists who are spending their time helping you to develop insight into patterns and behaviors. You are getting an array of people’s opinions that may or may not feel good to read. In the off chance you are still reading any of these responses, this is my opinion. You are immature. We all start off as children. But adults who behave immaturely are often avoided by other healthy adults. My opinion of you being emotionally immature is derived from your desire to manipulate or otherwise coerce a woman to have sex with you despite her being clear that she is reluctant.

“I’ve been friend zoned, that’s pretty much certain.”
“BUT I feel it is because of her idea that I’m in love with her”

It doesn’t matter if you think she has the wrong idea.

“ I really want to tell her what I think of this,”
“BUT I feel the more serious I’d get in on this “issue”, the more it would push her away.”

You know full stop. You don’t care about whether she wishes to further experience physical sex with you. You are hoping she will go against her own thoughts and instincts.

“Maybe I should just stop giving her attention, somehow make know that I’m seeing other girls?”
“BUT this one is one that I really don’t want to let go like that.”
This is attempting to manipulate someone into paying attention to you. It is an emotionally immature desire to control when and how someone else stops paying attention to you.

“Don’t need the “you got friend zoned brah, move on”. Thanks.”

This line is why I didn’t even bother, before. This line is why you sound like a creep. Childish men view women as toys and think they should be able to play as they want to with women. Children have adults who keep them safe. Grown men don’t. It is nobody’s duty to explain the world to you in a way which gels and makes you acknowledge them as a different, equal person. When full grown males act as though the world is a video game, others are going to perceive them as potential threats. You come across as threatening, whether you are just going to be a nuisance or whether you will end up a stalker isn’t a given to anyone here. Hence the reactions you received.

@Kate- do you think she has a boyfriend who occasionally plays along or to whom she reads her made up questions? I’m wondering because of the “raw dough” question posted AGES ago. It kind of sounded like she was making fun of someone. Do you remember the question I’m talking about? I can’t remember whether it was cookies or bread but he ate something raw and was wondering if he should go to the hospital?

Also, I’m sorry I got huffy when you called me out for writing like a friendo. You are a very good moderator.