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ahhh MissDre have an amazing trip!
And I have heard about that place – going to check out their tacos soon for sure. Though this is starting to sound like we need a Chicago meet up…..
I once wrote a scathing review on Yelp for Antique Taco in Chicago. I have never been so angry with a food item in my life. But every single person I meet her raves about it. And I listed in my dating profile to please god not recommend it as “good tacos.”
I may be overly obsessed with tacos.
Copa, as a Southern California who is 75% Mexican (so three Mexican grandparents) and lives in the Midwest, I am the most annoying taco elitist!
And as my bf lived in Calgary for a long time and was still dumbfounded by what I call an authentic taco….things can LOOK like a taco and not be anywhere near right LOL.
I miss driving to Ensenada for lunch 🙁
Eh Veritek, I must be cold as I wouldn’t have responded in the first place. I did that once and found out later the guy (who I knew through mutual friends) had ghosted on me to get back together with his (literal) playboy bunny ex gf. And when he popped back up was when it didn’t work out with her. And you know what?
I would never ghost on someone, I’d have the decency to send a text saying “hey, I’ve had a great time getting to know you, but with my move etc. I have a lot on my plate and am not in a great place to date. I’d love to reach out later when I am in a better place if you are open to it, but if not I totally understand.” That took me all of 20 seconds to type. IF someone can’t put 20 seconds in for basic courtesy, I’m out.
If it was more of a mutual fade, I would feel different but I’d also assume I wasn’t all THAT into him if it faded and I made no real effort. And I’m not someone that dates people unless I’m pretty instantly very into them. So up to you if you want to give it a go, but I wouldn’t focus on the “real” reasons why he ghosted.
Love reading everyone’s updates!
As for the doesn’t want to move in together/get married…maybe it’s because I was pretty burned the last time and maybe because I’m 32 and really am a-ok with being single, but I won’t be with someone I have to convince to want the same things as me ever again. It’s too hard, it’s not fair for either person, and someone is always feeling like they are sacrificing in a way they aren’t ok with (wither by waitin longer than you want to or moving faster than you want to?) I think there are many ways to have a successful relationship, but having dated a lot of people who didn’t realize “I’m afraid of marriage, not sure why, ehhh” was shorthand for “I’m just not that into you but you’re awesome and everyone would think I was crazy to leave you so I would rather keep the status quo.” So yeah, I want to date someone for whom marriage etc. is a goal for them too.
As for me, things are fantastic. BF is talking about looking for another job (if he stays with the current he would have to move internationally in a year or so). The plan is to look in our current (major) city but we’re theoretically open to other places in the U.S. (my job will let me move anywhere in the country as I work mostly remote and we have offices everywhere). The end of April, we’re going to Cambridge for his MBA graduation ceremony and a few days in London with his parents, then the two of us are spending some time in Santorini and Athens. I do still feel like it’s too good to be true in some ways. Things just feel…easy. Safe. Fun! So not overthinking it, though my boss looked at me like I had a tail growing when I mentioned I’d be willing to move with a guy I’ve been dating for 4 months.
I’m reading through the last few pages and wooooow.
1. I’ve only been ghosted once, and I was pretty ambivilant about it. Like if he’s that much of a coward, ok, I wouldn’t have liked him in the long run anyway. But it baffles me that this is still a thing. How is it still a thing?
2. I’d actually meet those ridiculous height/weight requirements but then I’d expect him to meet my height and salary requirements. Wait, what’s that? The sound of men saying “women are bitches” and “women only like assholes?” Also, I spin 4 times a week and have no calves. I can’t gain muscle to save my life. And I wore makeup while on the Inca Trail (had to put in on at 3:30 AM in the dark with a flashlight). So eff people with ridiculous ideas of what people are like based on arbitrary markers.
3. Dating is hard. I just tell myself and others: it only has to work out once (unless you’re poly which, it could happen a few times!). Met current dude on Tinder and in 3 months it’s by far the best relationship I’ve ever been in. It could still go up in flames since it’s still early, but shit. It gives me hope that there are good ones still out there, even for those of us in our 30s.
4. I’m flying to FL to meet the bf’s parents tomorrow and am super nervous. I’m pretty down because I recently got a very bad facial scar (people stare) and gained some weight so not really on my game :(. But pretty sure his parents care more that I’m a good person, smart, etc. Still it’s been years since I did a meet-the-parents, and it’s extra scary as we’ll be staying with them for 4 days. Wish me luck!
@copa Awwww I have fostered kittens and it was SO HARD to let them go when it was time, sending you lots of hugs (and to the foster puppy to, hi puppy!)
If someone doesn’t like me at my burrito, they don’t deserve me at my homemade creme brulee. Also: TACOS. ALWAYS TACOS (SoCal lady for life).
It’s a little crazy for me to think that on Valentine’s Day last year, my ex was moving out of our apartment because the week before I had found out he was cheating on me and kicked him out. It was the most miserable way to spend Valentine’s Day. This year I’ll be with someone I’m crazy about, who just stopped by with flowers (he made sure to avoid anything poisonous to cats!) and a card during his lunch break. And I’m just all 🙂 🙂 🙂
@vertitek33 Congrats on the job offer!!! And you finally got the trampoline park date…I’d say things are good for you 🙂
I’m so behind on this thread but I read everyone’s updates and it’s fun to see your date ideas (and want to steal them). Like, I am SO doing a ramen making class and tramploine date.
Does anyone have Valentine’s Day plans? The Canadian bf is making me a three course fondue dinner (fondue nights are a big thing in his family) as I just wanted to stay in. We had an amazing time in Toronto for his birthday, are flying to Florida to visit (and me to meet!) his parents next Thursday, and are planning our trip to the UK/Greece for his graduation ceremony and vacation. So things are pretty great with me!
So after an emergency trip to my very sympathetic dermatologist (who had to pull another doctor into the room because she was so baffled) apparently I’m having some sort of really bad allergic reaction on my face, possibly a bug bite. It’s literally a one inch bright red swollen rash directly between my eyebrows at constant itching all over my face. UGH. I told them I’m going to Toronto tomorrow and meeting my bf’s friends and family for the first time and they prescribed me a super strong topical steroid. Sooooo hoping I no longer look like Quasimodo soon…
Also I’m from CA where cocaine was at literally every party kid’s house. Like, I remember being on some dudes yacht while people were doing it and thinking “is this really my life? This isn’t me.” Happy to be a boring drug free nerd.
Ooops not sure what the heck I read to think it was Pi Day! But yes, PIE EVERYDAY!
HURRICANE MACHINE?? I am so jealous, that sounds like a blast!!
@Copa I’m meeting his sister who lives out there. His parents live over there too but are in Florida right now so we are planning to head down to visit them/get a sunshine break at the end of next month. Of course I broke out with a huge (like the size of a dime) acne cyst right between my eyes. I usually have really clear skin so of course I’m mortified. If anyone has any thoughts on getting a big swollen sucker like that to be ok in a few days, I am here for it!
Also happy Pi Day! I’m totally getting pie with lunch 🙂
Love reading all of these positive updates! @lucia_la I feel like both of us starting dating people at the same time and have followed a similar trajectory so it’s cool to read your updates and cheer you guys on from afar 🙂
@veritek33 “doesn’t want to wait until Saturday to see me again”…melt. Reall interested to hear how the trampoline park is, I’ve always wanted to try one of those!
@TheLadyE For some reason, when I was in my 20s (starting when I was umm, 20) I pretty much only dated men in their 30s, and now that I’m in my 30s I’ve been mostly dating men in their 20s. Age is such an arbitrary thing once you hit your 30s I think. Glad you guys had fun.As for me, nothing new…just hanging out with Canadian bf a ton and trying not to overthink everything. We head to Toronto in three days! I’m nervous/excited.
