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I almost agreed with you Kate about the dressing up thing on the NYE thread.
I was going to work for a while Thursday, and now I’m thinking fuck it and I want to get a manicure. And all I’m doing is going to an early dinner then to my friend’s house to drink champagne and play a game she just bought called Nasty Things. Should be interesting. The guy will be there, of course. He is considering wearing a tux, for fun.
That’s a bummer, ver! But at least it’s a legit reason.
I’m reading the NYE thread… but I’ll say it here… if you end up going out with friends, get dressed up anyway! Last year, we hung out at a married friend’s house and I still wore a dress and took extra care with getting ready. Prior years, same.
I don’t put a lot of pressure on NYE. I find something to do. And I make myself pretty.
However, i totally get being bummed thinking you had a date and then this happening and now you have to find something else to do. That sucks! Vent away!
Very pretty Ver! I’m happy you had fun. And I’m super happy you went.
Agreed. Dre, do not go out with him. Ick.
How was all the other dates? Ver, how was the ball? That was last weekend, right?
ver – you’re going to have a blast. And it’s so fun to get dressed up. Def do manicure. If you saved on the dress, maybe even a pedicure for fun. Treat Yo Self! It’s the holiday’s.
Dre – yay to a sunday date!
Welcome MJ!!!! I kind of like that this thread archives my dating adventures with the guy. In recent news, he’s coming back from Mexico later tonight and coming over straight away. I received morning and nightly texts while he was away. I believe I’m meeting his mom on Friday. He’s meeting my mom, sis and nieces Sunday. He already met the sis and brother in law who lives here. AND my dad’s family is celebrating Christmas the Sunday before. He’s coming home with me Sunday morning and leaving Monday. It was his idea!
LOVE the open back dresses. LOVE!
Yay! Step outside of your comfort zone and have a fun evening!!!! If I were in your shoes, I’d go.
As an aside and type… After my sister and brother in law met the guy, my sister told me he was not what they were expecting. The brother in law assumed he’d be a hipster. The sister assumed he’s be pretty, as in, extremely well dressed with perfect hair and fit, etc. The funny thing is, I’ve never dated a dude like either of those. Ever. And even though he’s not the blonde hair, blue eyed dudes I usually go for… he does have personality traits I admire, such as wit, kindness and intelligence.
So, as far as outer appearance goes, I say most are equal opportunity. Be more concerned with inherent traits and values that match yours.
I’m glad you’re considering him, Ver, even though he’s not your usual type.
Hmm… I don’t know. I almost say if you have a dress, go to the ball. But an NFL game would be fun too. Who knows, if you both hit it off at the ball, maybe he’ll take you to a game too!
Would going to the game entail significant travel time? I’m assuming you’d either go to St. Louis or KC? That’s something to consider too.
I agree with Wendy and others that I wouldn’t worry too much about the age range. And dating against type. Up until the guy, I’ve dated solely guys with dark blonde or super light brown hair and blue eyes. The guy is a brunette with hazel eyes.
As for the gun/riot talk… yeah… that is possibly a huge deal breaker. Maybe if he wants to take you out for coffee… maybe.
And I won’t apply it to us and our future. Just how he sees his one day and vice versa.
The kids thing, I’m more just curious about where he stands, as I’m turning 36 in Jan. And I’m honestly ok if I do, ok if I don’t. As for marriage, I do agree that happens more organically… I guess I’m curious if he’d be interested again, eventually, since he was married before. I’m in absolutely no rush, I just think I want it some day. And you’re right, Lianne, the closer I get him, the more I eventually want it, to him.
So… basically… if there is ever an opening, it’s ok to bring it up instead of doing the usual ktfran thing and not talking about it.
Thanks, guys!
So… dating question because I haven’t had to deal with this in a long time. Like not since I was dating the ex-fiance.
When do you bring up the future talk? Like, if you’re interested in kids? Or want marriage (again for him) or long-term partner? Does it just happen organically? And when is too soon to discuss?
For instance, I’m sort of ambivalent about having kids. I know I’d make a great mom. But I don’t want to do it alone and I’d have to be with the right person who wanted one a lot. And I think I’d only want one. But at the same time, if it doesn’t happen for me, I’ll be ok. And marriage. I use to say all I want is a long-term partner. But I actually think I want to get married. I don’t really want the big party thing… just a marriage, eventually. I’m in no rush, but I do want it.
Since Friday, two of my friends miscarried so I’ve been thinking about this. I really, really like the guy (could easily say love)… but before I get too much further into things, I should probably know where he stands on important life decisions, right? Or like I said, do I let it happen organically?
What say you, DWers?
