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hfan – i agree with K. Chat with the bride. Tell her you might be interested in this wedding dude. Ask her to set up a group outing or something. Easy!
Ver – I’m sorry it didn’t work out. That sucks! And I agree with others. Don’t be hard on yourself. It was nothing you did and it wasn’t you. I mean that.
Ver, all that sounds great!
Sorry Dre. That sucks!
So…. the guy and I went to a very nice dinner of Friday. Think 11 courses, two bottles of wine, three hours. So, lots of talking time. Since it’s almost the most wonderful time of the year, we’ve been talking about our respective family traditions a lot lately. This year, my dad’s family is celebrating Christmas the Sunday before and so I’m heading home that morning via Amtrak. The guy threw out on idea I never expected… coming with me Sunday morning and leaving Monday… if he were welcome. Of course I said of course! He’s not sure yet, but I suspect he will. Also, he’s meeting my mom and sisters and nieces on the 13th because we’re taking the nieces to the Lion King for their Christmas present and I’m meeting his mom and others on the 11th.
It is karenwalker. I might need to reread sometime.
I can see how meetup is harder in a smaller town. And how it would be harder to make single friends who are closer to your age and share the same interest. That sucks, ver. I don’t have good advice on how to build up new relationships in that kind of situation.
I’m certain I’d be in a similar situation if I ever had to move back home.
I’ve only recently entered into the this moji world and now the guy is too. We send the most ridiculous things to one another. It’s fun though.
I like your new bitmoji Kate. I should consider using mine.
Basically what Kate said. For me, it wasn’t logistics of living alone. It was building a life I enjoyed and being generally happy with myself.
Of course, there were some weekend days when I’d enjoy a nice walk and pick up a coffee and wish there was someone with me doing that. But the happier I was, the more those thoughts were fleeting.
Finally, as far as craving physical affection… while I didn’t have a man to do that with, I had plenty of friends that I’d spend time with. That really helped me feel less lonely. Of course, I wasn’t kissing and having sex with my friends, but we did have a connection and it was important to me.
So ver, I would almost suggest cultivating some really strong friendships.
A agree Kate… I figured that’s what everyone meant but thought it best to explain.
Ver – I’m not good at dating multiple guys at once, but I do think when using a dating site, it’s good to go on a few first or second dates with different people.
I define dating multiple people and going on first and second dates as two different things. The former, you’d be dating, IDK, two or three guys over an extended period of time simultaneously. The later, you’d go on a dates here and there until you click with someone and then you’d stop going on other first dates to see where it leads.
