ktfran
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I seriously doubt I’m one of the most judgmental people who posts here. I call out people for being jerks. And I tell most to relax, they’re making a bigger deal out of something than needs be. You’re the one making this a thing BGM. And I’m definitely consistent in my posts and my viewpoints.
“The LW flat-out said she “slept with 10+ men … I don’t judge her for that, but some of them are married.” That seems clear to me.”
By mentioning the number, you are, in fact, judging her based on how many men she’s slept with. You might claim you aren’t, but you really are, otherwise why mention it? What does it add to the story? It’s like someone making a mean comment then following it up with “I’m only joking.”
If this LW’s only concern was truly with her friend sleeping with married men, then that’s all the letter needed to be about.
By telling the story the way you did, you are absolutely judging her based more on her sleeping with married men. It’s fine. You think your friend is morally corrupt. Stop being friends with her. Problem solved. Her number of sex partners is irrelevant.
10 men, two of which were married (and I did agree with that being wrong). That’s not multiple married men.
It’s funny how most of the time you rail against the prudes, bgm, but as soon as a woman has sex with a few different people you’re questioning her morals?? There’s absolutely no reason to mention number unless you’re judging and you want others to judge. All the LW had to say is her friend is sleeping with two married men. That’s it. And that’s what I was calling out.
Sleeping with married men, sure, question away.
Since when does sleeping with multiple men equate to having low morals? Come on. That’s complete bullshit and you know it.
I’m not sure how sleeping with 10 men since a divorce is relevant to the story…
If you no longer like or respect your friend, fade out. It’s fine. She’ll get over it.
I’m with ele4phant on this one. At first read, I thought WOW… they are so taking advantage of Alea. Yikes! But with every additional response, I think that ele4phant is spot on w/ the mix of oblivious friends w/ someone who is overly accommodating friend. Of course they’re going to keep asking if she keeps saying yes!!
LW, set boundaries and speak up for yourself.
I’m a people pleaser. I’ll always be a people pleaser. It’s a struggle, but I have learned that I need to look out for myself.
Remember, NO is a complete sentence. You don’t need to offer an explanation.
Yeah, I’m not down w/ this hot of weather so early. I need at least a month of 60’s/70’s w/ sun! Not 85+ with sun.
The farm where I get my CSA said the sweet corn isn’t looking good this year because of the lack of rain. We need rain!!
Chicago had been hot and gross too. Linen has been welcomed! I think I want the mustard color next @cleopatra_30. And maybe chambray.
I ordered some of the Old Navy linen pants and am wearing them for the first time today. LOVE!!!! I have the myrrh. I want in other colors now. However, my body type is pretty straight and narrow.
Madewell does have a lot of higher jeans right now, unfortunately. I do think they still have a few mid rise styles, but prob online only. I like the price, the pocket placing, and the fact that I’ve never had saggy butt from them.
I’m a Rayban fan.
