ktfran
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I surprisingly have on opinion on this subject. I say do what works for you and the person you ask to accompany you. So, discuss it and mutually agree to the financial terms of the invite.
Dude. That’s what I’m saying. Unless you’re tied down, be single at weddings. Have fun. Don’t deal with entertaining someone you’ve been on 3.2 dates with.
I do think it’s a bit weird to bring a rando to the rehearsal dinner. I personally wouldn’t do it, but I’ve never had a problem attending things solo. And I’d feel bad leaving a date while I did bridesmaid things with the bride.
But I agree that I feel you send out the plus one invite, you should be ok with whatever the person decides to do.
@hfantods, we had a small wedding. Immediate family only brunch/ceremony then party on our roof for friends the same evening. No seating charts! No favors! No table arrangements! No entrance walk! The only thing I stressed over was making sure we had enough food because I love food. We hired that out though.
@Copa, I’m with you. The husband and I lived separately until we were engaged. Granted, we spent 4 – 5 nights a week together. Still, it was nice to know we had our own space. After engaged, we started looking for a condo together to purchase. We bought and moved into our condo late April and got married early September.
I love it when he leaves town and I can have my few days of downtime. LOVE. I also love that he bowls in the burbs on Sunday mornings with his dad 9 months out of the year. I quite enjoy my lonesome Sunday routine. It’s a little hard to adjust when bowling is over for the season.
What @kate said. Hopefully he’s not rerouted on the same flight and the universe is doing you a solid.
I do… that’s creepy AF.
You could potentially save a lot of $. Brunch food is typically cheaper. In lieu of a DJ or band, break out an Ipod or spotify or however you stream and set up a couple of speakers. Impromptu dancing, even in the middle of the day, is always fun. If you do it at a restaurant instead of a reception hall, you might not even have to worry about too many decorations… let the space speak for itself. You wouldn’t even have to necessarily have a traditional wedding cake. We actually went to a super good bakery in town and had them make three different kinds of cakes. One said “I do”, the other had our wedding date and then the final had our initials made from gold wire with a heart between them (etsy). I think our cake costs were like $120. Maybe with the etsy purchase, $140.
The one thing we did spend money on is a photographer. We hired someone who specialized in candid shots. She was like, I don’t really take posed shots. That’s exactly what we wanted.
Do it! Oh my gosh that would be fun.
I say have whatever kind of wedding will make you happiest.
I’m with everyone else. Don’t buy a house together unless you’re engaged and planning a wedding, or as Kate mentioned, you’ve discussed your long term plans/commitment with one another and you also talk to a lawyer/protect yourselves.
Thinking back, I don’t know any one of my friends or family members who purchased a home together until they were engaged. I know a few who moved in together prior to engagement and rented. I also know a couple of people where one owned a home or condo, like Ver’s situation.
I think it’s a smart move to not entangle yourself financially unless there is an extremely strong commitment.
