ktfran
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Right. She said she slept at her house on some nights because of the dog. She definitely knew this was a problem beforehand. A pretty big one at that.
@skyblossom, I totally agree they should compromise, but again, it should have been discussed beforehand because she knew she didn’t like it. Then if he said no, should could have called it off. I mean she still can. I would.It’s also pathetic moving in or staying with someone expecting them to change without having a conversation about it beforehand. I don’t understand why she wouldn’t have brought this up before she moved in if she knew it was going to be problem. To me, that’s insane.
I totally understand what people are saying, however, it should have been discussed beforehand. She knew that he the dog slept with him. She should have said, hey, I value my sleep, is there a way we can make this work to move the dog out of the bed?
Is he being kind of a jerk? Yes. And you’re right that he values his wants more than hers. At the same time, she also handled poorly and should take ownership of that.
Forget the cuddling for a moment… you knew the dog slept in his bed with him when you moved in. This is something you should have discussed beforehand.
He’s not handling it well. But you knew the deal.
I’m not an animal person. But then again, I wouldn’t date or live with or marry a man was attached to his dog.
I do agree with others that a larger bed may be a solution?
And I do agree that he’s being a jerk about the cuddling. Not the dog thing though.
This year, the husband and I did christmas stockings for the first time ever and not surprisingly, we both gifted the other a few bars of “fancy” dark chocolate bars. We also got each other a cocktail shaker. We don’t think similarly at all…
re: dessert. The husband and I will have two dove dark chocolates every night after dinner, or a piece from a dark chocolate bar. It’s a not overly indulgent or bad for you.
Congratulations K!!!! You can easily plan a wedding in nine-ish months. Have fun and enjoy!!!!
I grew up on the Mississippi. My parents house is about a mile and a half. I’m terribly allergic to it. Like, my allergies don’t act up anywhere but my hometown.
I don’t think that you were in this case. You indicated your preferred method of celebrating valentine’s day. He didn’t say anything otherwise. Maybe he didn’t take you literally and that was on him. Was it a bummer you forgot the card? Yeah. But at most, that’s the only thing you did wrong. He should have spoken up. Or if he didn’t realize it was a big deal, said something within a day or two, but I guess he kind of did?
I really think you’re both ok and chalk this up to learning more about one another.
And now you know he likes to be “treated” a little bit. Don’t beat yourself up. A little conflict or hiccup is ok. It’s how you treat each other after that is telling. And he apologized, which he should have! So that’s good.
As this thread can attest, I have trouble talking about my feelings and I have had to actively work on it. I tried so hard to be more open with the husband. I’m still not always perfect at it. I talked about it on here a lot. We had one communication break down about six months in. Also discussed here. I was probably behaving similarly to your BF @copa, although I picked my birthday dinner, not a parents meeting weekend, and we were able to resolve in person. I’m so glad he stuck with me and we worked through it.
Anyway, I agree with @kate. Consider this a communication learning point and talk about how you two want to handle in the future. You should definitely be able to move past this. It’s a bummer you can’t see him before your trip. Facetime is great though!
And have a blast on your trip!!!!!
We normally stay home and cook or order in. I’m also craving tacos. Dinner tomorrow night!
I’m not a big valentine’s person and neither is he…. last night was a complete anomaly because we have season tickets and it happened that our tickets to Dear Evan Hansen fell on Valentine’s day. We can usually exchange for another date, but all ticket holders received an e-mail that you couldn’t with this show since it was sold out.
