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Definitely wasn’t infatuated with the husband. I think that’s why I used the word excited. I was excited to see him. But I took things super slow…. it took me several months to admit to my friends that I had a boyfriend. I need to go back and read this from the beginning. It captured pretty much everything about us.
Lol Lucia_la, I do too. But I also kind of find it barf worthy. It’s a strange mix for me. Probably because I have a hard time expressing mushy stuff.
I think slow is definitely good! Feel it out. Learn about the person.
But I also think excited to see someone is good.
Yay Copa! It’s awesome that he’s scheduling dates in advance. Totally a good sign. You’re checking to see if you like him too, right?
In all previous relationships, I would never have been able to remember when a first date occurred. Well, today marks the day of my first “official” date with the husband. I can’t believe it has only been three years. Of course, we had spent the night together a month prior. I digress.
On our first date, we went to this bar that was supposed to have a summer cocktail with blue gummy sharks. They were out. Every year since he has bought me blue gummy sharks. This year didn’t disappoint.
Also, this dating thread has been going on for a little over three years…
If I lived somewhere that wasn’t in the city, or I had fenced in yard, I would totally be ok with a dog, although I’d have to look into more low key breeds, or get one that’s a few years older. Anyway, if I were dead set on having a dog, the husband and I wouldn’t be married. He’s anti-pets. Period.
So, someone like he and Copa wouldn’t even go on a date. Which is fine because they each know that about themselves. Since I’m ambivalent about the whole thing, I could go either way depending on circumstances. Deal breaker for him. There’d have to be talks with me.
Also, this is silly, but I’m irrationally afraid of cats. I think they are going to claw my face off. And they sense that about me which makes it worse for both of us.
I think pets can be a deal breaker. If I badly wanted a dog or cat and the husband had a strict no pet policy, we wouldn’t have been a good match. Or vice versa. The husband I and fall into the no pet category, so we’re good.
For me, personally, I’m strict no cats because I’m allergic. I can last about two hours in a house. I couldn’t date someone who had, or was planning on getting a cat. I could handle a dog, but if I was with someone who wanted a dog, he’d have to do the dog walking since we live in a large city and picking up and discarding poop makes me gag, literally. My throat is closing just thinking about it.
So, pets aren’t always a deal breaker, or major, but I think they can be depending on the person.
So, I just bought one of those Jade Rollers Wendy linked a while back. Flash sale, $10. I had a $10 credit for shopping at Whole Foods… so. That’s my fun purchase today.
Go there on a date, it’s really good. Actually, if you want to try the duck, you need at least 4 people so you can enjoy the other food too. I like it better than her other restaurants because I like the salt/flavor bombs with chinese food. At her other too places, I feel like she goes overboard.
And yes, bumble guy sounds promising.
Thanks for the intel! I’m asking my sis if it’s a go. We’re actually going to be dressed up on Saturday for dinner…Duck, Duck, Goat, yay! it’s easily the best Izzard restaurant IMO… so it might be fun to be silly together beforehand.
@copa, how did you like Happy Place? We’re celebrating my mom’s 60th this weekend. She and my other sis are coming in town. We’re staying in hotels downtown. Thinking about going there Sunday. Was it worth it?
I can honestly say that looks-wise, the husband is nothing like my “type.” I didn’t even find him particularly attractive at first, and now I look at him and I think, damn, he’s hot.
Value-wise, family-wise and life-style-wise, he is exactly who I wanted, or my “type.”
Personality-wise, he’s pretty darn close, but could be a little more of a go-getter. Neither one of us are, but we manage.
I think it’s ok to have deal breakers, but I do think you set yourself up for failure if you’re stringent on things such as age, looks, career, etc.
For instance, one of my close friend’s had a very specific type. She only dated that type and was wildly unsuccessful. She ended up hiring a life/dating coach. Met her match, who was nothing like she thought she wanted, and she’s married and extremely happy. Like, she’d only date people who worked in finance or engineering or some office job. And now she’s married to a nurse, someone she was wary about because he wasn’t let’s say, a doctor. He’s great for her and to her!
I guess what I’m saying is, qualities, character, personality are extremely important. The rest, meh, unless you know you don’t want something. Like, thank goodness neither one of us wants pets or kids. Oh, and the husband was married once before, briefly.
Wow! Gorgeous hizzy!!!!
Yeah MissD! Good luck!!!! Super excited for you.
