ktfran

Seriously. To add onto what Kate said, you’re more likely to find a good human being that treats you (and possible children) well if you’re ok with yourself and ok with being single. Snagging a man isn’t the end all/be all to existence… and if you believe that, you end up in a shitty relationship. Aim higher.

I’ve said it my entire life, but I’d rather be alone and happy with my life than settle with someone just because you’re “supposed to.” What a sad, sad way to live. And yes, that’s how I felt before meeting my husband at 35 and marrying at 37. You don’t need a man (or woman) by your side to be fulfilled. Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

It’s easy to forget in that hot mess! I forgot there was a second wife who was apparently crazy. I mean really, no wonder this kid is messed up.

And never trust a someone who calls their ex crazy, unless that’s actually true.

I was on my way to bed last night so was tired and didn’t bother addressing his behavior. But what Kate said about him. He is not a good man. A good person wouldn’t put his girlfriend’s needs over a teenage child’s. Your child comes first. A good person wouldn’t assault you like that in anger. And you’re just as bad if not worse, but that has been addressed.

Both of you disgust me. I’m glad the daughter cut you all off.

My two closest friends growing up had parents in their life like this guy and their parents married people like you. Jealous and insecure and all adults put their needs before their kids. I could see how it messed them up. My parents offered them a safe space if they ever wanted it. Luckily they’re both ok. They both have created stable homes and love their children and put them first. Something neither had growing up.

@cleo, I was in the same boat. I entered our relationship with cc debt. I think that was the hardest conversation I had with the husband. It was before we were engaged. In June, it will finally be paid in full! We’re celebrating with a nice bottle of wine we picked up in Napa two weeks before he proposed.

We didn’t cut down on vacations because that is something the husband loves. I did cut down on clothes and going out and all those extras.

Yay! We’re going to pay a little extra so we can get two beds/ocean front. I think the only other two bed option is tropical view. We def want our own beds.

That’s what sold me… our rooms! Some of my engineer… 🙂 friends love traveling to St. John’s. Thanks for the tip @k.

Oh, and @Kate, my friend and I are taking a trip to your Cancun resort this fall! Both our husband’s do fall trips with their friends, so this is ours.