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Oh, TheHizzy, I liked that dress too! I forgot to mention it.
Sometimes, it’s hard for people to see the more nontraditional dresses until you’re actually in it and they see you so happy! The first time I was engaged, we were going to get married on the beach so I was looking at more bridesmaid type dresses for my wedding gown, and when I mentioned this to people, they were aghast. Losers.
Oddly enough, I ended up with a similar gown for my Sept. wedding that I had wanted in 2007 for the wedding that didn’t happen. Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy was basically my inspiration and that always stuck.
@Ver, that’s really cute. How fun!
We didn’t have anyone stand up with us either.
I hate posed looks, so we hired a photographer that kind of hung back and followed us and took candid photos of our wedding celebration. My favorite photo, and the only one I want framed, is when walking across the street on Michigan Ave. in Chicago, my dress got caught on my shoe and the husband had to help me out of it. IN THE MIDDLE OF THE INTERSECTION! The photographer took a brilliant shot!
I should have noted, you only have to do those events if you want to. We didn’t have engagement photos because I personally have no use for them. I know others feel differently. I didn’t have a bridal shower, but I did have a bachelorette. AND IT WAS FUN! We went to cocktail classes at a fancy schmancy speakeasy. The husband didn’t have a bachelor party. We didn’t have an engagement party. We didn’t even have a typical, traditional wedding!
Anyway, my point is, you can do as little or as much as you and your fiance want!
That’s so pretty! I think some kind of belt or sash would look really pretty.
@TheHizzy, for $112, I’d totally buy it. Since it’s so inexpensive, if it doesn’t fit exactly right you could take it to a good seamstress. Or, if it’s not “wedding dress” enough for you, you can use it as a party dress for one of your wedding events!
@MissDre, your mom is so cute. Don’t fill silly! Well, maybe a little silly. Buy hey, to each their own. You would have regretted not buying it and then consistently thinking about it and then maybe not finding something quite like it for that price when you are engaged.Congrats on your first show being a success @LadyE!
@TheHizzy, mine was exactly $1,000. There’s a local shop here that makes dresses for you from scratch. They have a quite a few prototypes and then you build your preferences from there. I’d consider them vintage modern. It was so much fun to have a dress made specifically for me!
We did remain friendly afterwards. I’m not sure how, because I did everything wrong. We worked together, so that prob had something to do with it. We both moved to different cities within the same week about 8 months after the break up. We had lunch and wished each other well. After that, pretty much no more contact, and that’s ok.
It’s not just guys. I did that to my ex-fiance. We talked marriage. And a life together. I told him what kind of ring I’d prefer. He proposed. I said yes. Shortly after, I started to withdraw from him. It took me about 5 months, maybe 6 to finally call it off and break up. Those months were totally fucked up and I feel bad about how I acted, but it’s good we didn’t marry only to divorce later.
Anyway, what Kate said. Don’t let old insecurities ruin what you have now. You know the signs to look out for… so enjoy this time and your relationship!
FWIW, he married a few years after the break up. So, me being an asshole didn’t keep him from finding someone. And I was an asshole. He looks happy and I was thrilled for him!
@thehizzy…. super sweet! That’s a fun engagement story.
@copa… your pregnancy story reminded me of my sister’s. Her husband had been out of the county for a few weeks and at Christmas, she told me and the other sis she was pregnant. It took us both a few minutes to comprehend what she was saying. Not sure why. She was finally like “You idiots, I’m pregnant!” It pretty much happened right before he left for China for work.
@ale, I’m sorry about your friend. My money is on his new wife not wanting you there. Unfortunately, that happens a lot. It sucks.Congrats @hizzy!!! Very exciting. Happy late birthday @ladye!!!
hfantods, I can tell you about the “nice guy”….
We were engaged but I called it off on the account of never wanting to have sex with him. In retrospect, I should have called it off sooner, but I didn’t because everything other aspect of our relationship with great.
He was smart and funny. A bit nerdy. He was into outdoor sports. He built things. We liked the same food and movies and travel. We had the same idea about family. We both adored each others family. I liked to hug him and cuddle with him. Oh, he was also good looking, it’s odd that I didn’t list that first. Anyway. He was a great friend! Sex was ok in the beginning, but it faded pretty fast. Once he proposed, and I did think I wanted to marry him, I freaked out. I realized that as great as he was, he wasn’t great for me and we both deserved someone who meets all our needs. Not having sex was the only thing we argued about. And that was before marriage and kids! So… I went to a therapist and finally called it off. It was a good decision and now I’m with someone who does meet all my needs for friendship and love and sex!
I feel for you hfantolds. I really, really do. I can’t tell you what to do because people have different needs or reasons for being in a relationship. For me, I wanted all aspects and I’m glad I broke it off. All I can say is, if at two+ months in, you’re feeling meh, this may not be the right guy for you?
Or do what Lianne said, and relax, and see where it goes?
