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Wendy’s idea to delete the word just, yes! Also, write more actively. You use passive voice, which isn’t as impactful. Fyodor’d sports example was great. Focus on a few things about yourself and give concrete examples. Your profile reads as unsure of yourself, like you’re throwing out a whole bunch of stuff that doesn’t really say anything. All you need is one or two good hooks to interest someone.
When Wendy has time, I bet she can offer a lot of solid suggestions.
In the context of a club, I wouldn’t even say he was acting aggressively, sky. If this happened at a wedding? Maybe. At a club, that’s a hard sell.
I’ve read this entire post too, and I’m with Kate, BGM, JC, List, etc. on this one. I have a really hard time calling what happened assault.
I honestly don’t think I have ever, in my entire life, been asked to be kissed and I have never asked.
I too grew up in an extremely conservative household. Was also Catholic. And was raised to be polite and courteous and to not ruffle any feathers. Unlike this LW, I still knew how to avoid unwanted attention. It’s common sense.
We don’t even know that she was frozen in fear, that was someone else on this thread who said that and then everyone who wants to call it assault ran with it. All we really know – from her own words – is that she didn’t like it and now regrets it. But she does not write that she gave him any indication that she didn’t like it, so how was he supposed to know? Again, the frozen bit was in other peoples words, not hers.
It was an unfortunate event that the LW needs to learn from.
Honestly, the way this was escalated to assault, I’d be afraid to even look at another woman if I were a man.
Thanks for the intel! Meetings are done for the day, time to look everything up!
Ver, that’s really cool about the art museum. Your weekend sounds fun!
THANK YOU! Both are easy to get too, with Cancun being super easy. Wanted shorter flights, since only going for a long weekend. And it’s so much easier to start from recommendations, especially at all inclusives. Thanks!
It has been great reading all of the good updates!!!!! Ver, I’m excited about your new job, and the dates! And Fuck your old boss. WOW! Copa, have fun playing the field! Remember, you’re in this to see who you like better, not waiting for one to drop out. And LadyE, that’s super cool about open mic night. I would never be so brave.
Hfan, I would totally pick up the tab for his birthday, even if in front of friends. If they think that’s weird, than I’d say they’re weird.
Kate, quick question, where do you like to go in Mexico? What’s the resort? A friend and I want to go away for a long weekend this winter. Her husband and mine both do fall dude trips, so we’re going on a winter trip. Requirements: beach and drinks and easy flight. Originally, we were looking at different caribbean islands, but hurricanes decimated most. Anyway, I know you have spoken highly of the place you go, but couldn’t remember where.
We unwrapped gifts from Santa too!
Ok. One other thing. One night between Christmas and New Years, we’d all pile in the car and drive around town looking at all the Christmas lights and we’d “ooh and ahh”. My dad made it a point to drive by houses with some of the most elaborate lights. Then we’d come home and drink hot chocolate.
Oh, something else fun we always did…
My mom would take each of us girls (my sisters and I) out on a separate evening leading up to Christmas. She’s take us to dinner then shopping so we could pick out a gift for our dad and sisters. SO MUCH FUN!
My dad would take all three of us out to dinner and we’d help him shop for mom. Again, FUN!
We didn’t go out to eat a lot when we were kids, so it was a special treat for us. So was picking out small gifts for people.
Now, my nieces go to this little holiday bazaar at school. My sis gives them like $20 each and they shop the bazaar for their parents, aunts, siblings and grandparents. They’re so excited when we open the gifts!!!!!
I LOVE CHRISTMAS!
My entire life, we’d spend a Saturday leading up to Christmas making and decorating Christmas cookies. When I was little, my mom, sisters, aunts and cousins got together at Grandma’s to do this. My aunt still carries this tradition and those of us that live in and around Chicago attend.
We’d also open presents at my Grandma’s on Christmas Eve. Some of us would stay up late watching Christmas movies and drinking boozy eggnog.
Every Christmas morning, my dad makes delicious whole hog sausage that he bought earlier in the year. It’s delightful. This has also happened since I was a kid.
Our heritage is German, so we celebrated St. Nick’s Day… that’s where you put out your shoe on Dec. 5th and when you wake up Dec. 6th, St. Nick leaves a small treat. My sisters and I always received Christmas PJs that we’d wear on Christmas Eve. Mom still sends us small St. Nick packages and I still by myself new PJs for Christmas.
Speaking of PJs, my husband and his parents hang out all day on Christmas in their PJs and have an open house and people stop by whenever they want.
Anyway, my fondest memories are being with my family and hanging out.
This provided much needed amusement this morning. THANK YOU!
I thought that book sounded like complete bs, so never bothered with it.
Copa, when I got my pixie cut about seven years ago, multiple people told me guys wouldn’t want to date me. These people were friends and relatives. A holes. And they were so wrong. I know that’s not the same as aging, but I agree with Kate. Most of my friends didn’t meet their boyfriends or husbands until early to mid 30s, me included. I know the fear is real, but hang in there!
