ktfran
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So I got married Sunday! Now we’re on our way to Portugal! I’ll see everyone in a week. When I get back, maybe I’ll ask Wendy to post a pic. Or make a finsta a la Kate. Woohoo!
I was actually the exact opposite as you guys! Once I hit IDK, maybe 31/32… I stopped basing my worth on relationship status, job status, house status, whatever kind of status. I was like fuck it. I’ll live my life and be happy and things will happen for me when they happen. And they have! Taking pressure off yourself really, truly helps.
At one time, friends were trying to convince me to join dating sites/apps and pestering me about it and I just didn’t want to date. I was ok with life. So…
If people give you shit about it, tell them to fuck off.
Have fun on your trip dre! Good luck!
Ver – yay to date 4!
Copa, anything coming up after the Axe throwing date?
I 100% wouldn’t be able to write a letter like that then wait for several months for the other person to bring it up. My stomach would be a wreck and I’d probably self sabotage the relationship because I was worrying constantly. But that’s me.
I do think it would be ok for you to bring it up sooner rather than later dre. In person. See what he’s thinking.
kmt, I think that’s why I waited to move in with someone until I was engaged. I did that first time around too. I wanted the commitment their before we intertwined our lives too much. I guess I wanted an easy out if needed.
Ahh, thanks Ver!
kmt, glad things are going mostly well!
Remember, don’t ever base your progression on others… it leads to what you’re feeling right now.
Take me and the fiance for example:
Our first date, July 2015
Proposed, October 2016 (still living separately before this point and after)
Bought a Condo April 2017 and moved in May 2017
Married in 5 days. Unless I run. KIDDING!Living together has been super easy and we didn’t need that trial period before he proposed. It’s not a necessary step and I think him being gun shy about moving in is likely not a reflection on how he feels about you.
If you haven’t already, talk about the steps you see before leading to marriage and the steps he would prefer and see if you can come to a compromise!
FWIW, both of my sisters didn’t move in with their now husbands until after engagement either. Maybe he has a more traditional view?
Also, all my friends and cousins in the city didn’t get married until the 34 – 36 mark. I’m doing this thing at 37.
Oh my gosh, have fun!!!! That will def be a memorable experience.
Ugh, I know! About the lane usage… supposedly they plan to gave better wayfinder signs too.
My only thing with axe throwing, would it be better in a group sometime? But I still think it would be fun!
My company is the one splitting the lakeshore path into peds vs. bikes. We’re working out a lighting contract now so it’s better lit.
Oh my gosh, I want to do axe throwing so bad! Go for it.
Or ping pong at one of the new ping pong places. Spin or something?
Water taxi to Chinatown.
