ktfran

100% what @copa said on interest in proportion to how long you’ve been dating. This guy is going 100 mph after just meeting you. Slow down! Get to know one another. Yes, your past break up is fresh and you don’t like to be reminded of it, but you were all in after a few dates and then it fizzled out pretty quickly. Six weeks is not that long. And this guy wants it to be the same way. He’s ready for an “us” after three dates. It’s ok to take it slow. I think it’s something you should consider when you are ready to start dating again.

Also, Ver, HELLO!

Nope, over Thanksgiving too!

I believe we’re going to Maui and Kauai. And I’ve never been!

The fiance’s parents are taking us because I guess they go every five years and watch the basketball tournament. One of the schools always in it is one the fiance went to. So a couple hours of two days I’ll have to do that 🙁

I know a handful of people who have had success on Match. A few who are now married and met years ago. The most recent meeting two years ago and getting married in October.

I was just going to say I know one couple who met through OkCupid and is now married with a daughter, but no, that’s wrong. They met in a bar. I was with her. She used Ok a lot though prior to that.

Exactly what Kate said. He needs to articulate a better reason than “I want my family to have the same last name” because his name is still in the mix.

I think I would have serious reservations about marrying someone who said what he’s saying and then shutting the conversation down.

FWIW, I’m not changing my last name and the fiance was 100% cool with it. In fact, I mentioned hyphenating because his is only 4 letters, but he said he’d prefer I didn’t. So… we’re good. Come to think of it, others have a problem with it. People suck.

I actually do believe that some people invite hardship on themselves. I’ll use a work example.

I manage and write proposals for an A/E firm. I’m pretty easy going on try not to stress too much because I know things will get done and will get done well. My coworker also gets things done well, but man, she’s a glass half empty kind of person.

We both have worked on similar proposals for the same client, as well as with the same internal team. I may work on hour or two late here or there for that client towards the end. She apparently works weekends and until midnight to get things done and she’s vocal about it on social media. Neither one of us had other projects we were managing while working for this client. The main varying factor is us and our personalities. To this day, I don’t get how our hours can differ so greatly. Maybe she thrives on the stress and people feeling sorry for her? IDK. But yes, part of me thinks she invites this on herself.

Oh, and ver, thanks for starting this forum topic!