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Happy 2-yearversary! The fiancé and I celebrated ours on the 19th. Not really. He bought me gummy sharks based on a joke from our first date but that’s about all.
I said it last year and I’ll say it again, this thread and everyone who took the time to comment helped see me through a few reality checks. So thank you. The outside perspective and community here is awesome.
LadyE, I’m happy things are going well!
I agree with everything Kate is saying in regard to both @ale… DO NOT GET SUCKED IN! and about the rando, late night texts a week later. NO!
@Mylaray, my therapist had me do the same thing after a really shitty, long distance, kind of FWB but not thing. I made a list of what I was looking for in a partner, we discussed those items and why they were on my list so I had a deeper, better understanding of what I was looking for and it worked. It helped me make better decisions and weed people out a lot faster than I normally would have.
I, too, still have my list and my fiance more than fits the bill. While moving into our new condo and weeding out junk, I decided to keep it. I don’t want to ever lose site of who I am or what I want.
Yep. I got that error on my computer at work and I posted something on today’s first thread. Wendy said she had people working on it.
My mom has finally stopped saying I’ll change my mind… thank god. A few friends and family members, not so much.
I can kind of see where the “want to make sure we’ll be together forever” statement comes from… although like Kate said, it’s a weird statement as there are no guarantees in life.
For instance, I decided quite a few years ago that I was ambivalent about having children. Like, if I met someone I was really jazzed about and we decided to give marriage a go and he wanted children, I would have done it. I think I’d make a great mom and I like kids, but the older I became, the less I wanted them, hence the ambivalence. It so happens I met someone who was also ambivalent. So… we’re not doing the children thing since neither felt strongly about it.
So, I think that statement these guys say is a lazy way to say that right now, they’re unsure, but if circumstances were right, they’d like to have children.
I wouldn’t respond either. Ick. I’m glad you ended up having a good night though, ver!
MissDre… that’s def a good sign! Woohoo! And don’t let some arbitrary number, like you’ll discuss moving after a year, get in the way. Do what feels right when it feels right. Although I wouldn’t move unless you had a firm commitment 🙂 That is coming from someone who wouldn’t even consider living with someone without being engaged. Or at least knowing it would happen soon. So who knows. Seems to be working so far.
@Ale, it’s totally understandable that you were feeling a little down on Wednesday! I truly enjoyed being single, but I always had a hard time around holiday’s, particularly Memorial Day, 4th of July and Labor Day because of the extra day off work and it’s usually good weather. I had to make sure I filled at least one of those days with friends. Heck, even now that I’m with someone, I get a little antsy if we or I don’t have something planned with other friends and/or family.
And good for you an the 100% return rate. That’s awesome!
And Ale, I’m sorry he turned weird on you. I’m glad you blocked him!
I didn’t add the fiance until, IDK, six months in or something. Maybe more?I can’t even remember. Neither of us were hiding anything. But I wanted to get to know him, not his curated, on-line persona. Neither of us thought it weird. Although I think our friends did? We may even joked about it a few times. To each their own though.
Cope, have fun at the event! Kmt, knife throwing… yes to that too!
I thought about doing an axe throwing class for my bachelortte party. We’re doing cocktail classes at this cool bar instead.
