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Also, MissDre, I’ve enjoyed reading your updates about this fellow. Good luck! I hope you get to visit him soon!
MG, Croatia was on our shortlist for our honeymoon. You’ll have to let me know how it is!
I think we’ve settled on Portugal/the Azores. The fiance found tickets for around $750. That includes a flight to Lisbon. Then Lisbon to the Azores. Then the Azores back home. Not bad!
Oh, RR, I’m not saying that there was anything wrong with it! I just think when you decide to come a parent, you should want to be a parent for life! Not only until they are adults, i.e, out in the world on their own. I mean, some people are fine with it. But the majority of people I know are still extremely close.
So, the 18 – 20 years… kids aren’t necessarily gone after 18 – 20 years. You might not live in the same house. Or you might not be financially responsible. But most adults I know still depend on their parents a lot. My little sis calls my mom daily. My friend’s mom lived with her for 6 months helping with her newborn. This is the friend I visited over the weekend. Another friend’s mom comes in town whenever her husband goes on a long trip. My aunt helps out a ton with her three grandchildren. Another aunt quit work to nanny her grandchild. Twice now my fiance’s parents helped him with a down payment on a condo then a house with his ex wife. This time, we’re doing it on our own. I moved back with my parents for six weeks when I was in between jobs and moving from the South back to the Midwest.
Of course, some families make a much cleaner break. This just hasn’t been the experience with my family, both immediate and extended and most of my friend’s families.
@frekcles, in re. to friends with kids… just on Saturday the guy and I went to my friend’s house. They have two kids (9 month old and 2 year old). We ordered pizza, watched basketball and hung out. It was a really good time. I’ll also occasionally go over after they put their children to bed, so at like 8:00. And we’ll have a drink or three.
Your outings may change, but it is possible to be friends with kids.
Then again, there are two couples who don’t have children we hang out with. One will never and the other is maybe a possibility several years from now. And then I have a few single girlfriends that don’t.
When I was younger, I wanted children. Or at at least a child. I’d say up to about age 32 I thought I’d have children. I like them. I think I’d make a great mom. I adore my nieces and nephews. But… the older I became, the less I wanted children. And maybe what you’re experiencing is a bit similar to how I feel. Like, did I decide I didn’t want children because I didn’t have a partner and it was looking less likely that I’d meet someone? So I came to terms with it and now I don’t want them? I’m not really sure.
I’m now engaged. At 37…. and we both know for certain we’re not going to have children and we’re both 100% ok with it. I’m going to be an awesome aunt. And we’re going to live our life. I don’t think I’ll regret it, but I can’t know for certain. Nothing is really certain.
I’m confident in my choice and I’m excited about my future.
Good luck! It is such a personal decision. I do believe that you could be happy and have a fulfilling life either way. Don’t let other people and their decisions get you down. You do you. And your husband 🙂
Wearing makeup = not into the outdoors. Who knew?
People have some strange ideas.
Speaking of current dating woes…
My aunt’s husband passed away, IDK, six years ago. The last year, she has started dating again. Since last fall, she’s been dating a man she met on one of the dating sites and over the last month, she has introduced him to some of her family. She ended it over the weekend because he told her to be his “ideal,” she needed to lose about 20 lbs. She’s not overweight to begin with. She’s like a size 6 or something and looks great for a 62 year old woman. WHAT THE FUCK?
Anyway, i thought it was crazy and thought I’d share. Glad she dumped him!
Ahh. So this is the same woman who was weird about the view. WOW!
Maybe she thought it was St. Nick’s day? I kid. But again, WOW!
Wait. Kate. Umm what? Your neighbor stuffs things in your boots?!?
That guy who ghosted. We had plans. I tried to confirm. And literally nothing ever again. No text. Nothing. It was crazy.
I was ghosted in, idk, 2010 by someone I had been seeing for several months. It was a dude I met in a bar. The first time I had ever dated someone I met so in a bar.
Anyway, I don’t know if it’s gotten worse. Like I said. Some people suck.
Maybe it feels like it’s worse because dating apps have made it easier to go on dates, ergo more dates, ergo more people sucking.
