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Those are FUN!
I was afraid about the clunky thing. Wanted to get a second opinion. Or third or fourth. THANK YOU! I knew you’d help Kate.
I’m probably go with a pump. I’ve worn an electric blue, pointy toe pump with that dress. And a black strappy sandal. I think I’ll look into burgundy though.
JCrew doesn’t carry the dress anymore. It’s similar to this, only the front and back are Vs. Not halter. And the waist doesn’t have a distinct band like this one. But it is fitted.
https://www.jcrew.com/womens_category/weddingsandparties/LACE/PRDOVR~E6945/E6945.jsp
I don’t have shoes yet. I’m shopping tomorrow. I have nothing comfortable at home to wear 🙁 Shoe shopping tomorrow.
Can I change the subject quickly? I don’t want to start a new thread and I like posting on this one. Anyway.
Black lace dress. Hits a little above the knee. V in the front and back. Sleeveless. Can I wear a suede, block heel pump with it? I’m thinking burgundy. Or even a blue/navy? I have an event Sat. Last minute. The heels I’d normally wear are strappy sandals. I want something for fall and comfortable for standing probably 5 hours.
Thanks in advance.
And I’m still with RR and Kate on not understanding why you’d lie in a profile about being divorced, if that’s an option to select.
This is an interesting conversation. I’ve never had a problem with dating divorced guys. I always joked that I’d gladly be the second wife… have the starter marriage, learn from mistakes, find life long partner. The guy I’m with now is divorced. And I was engaged once. Anyway. I guess add me to the camp who doesn’t care one way or the other. “First” is overrated. But that’s just my opinion.
However, I do think it’s a lie to check single when you have been divorced. I wouldn’t not consider someone because of it. But I think it would be shady to go on a few dates and then he said “I was divorced.” I would want to know if someone once loved another enough to go through with the whole marriage bit.
kmt – you’re a babe, don’t think otherwise.
Honestly, the best thing I ever did for myself was take a total hiatus from dating. Mine ended up being a year and a half, I think. I concentrated on yoga, and friends, and travel, and cultivating the life I wanted.
Taking the complete break helped me regroup. It was no longer about them and being rejected. It was about me, and figuring myself out and what I wanted in a partner to help me make better choices.
@ver – I’m sorry about the job, but it sounds like you’re doing really well. Fingers crossed for you and the job you like!!!!
Oh, MG, I was mostly curious how your parents handled it. I don’t know what made me think of it. I guess the letter Wendy posted today about the small, intimate wedding and the LW feeling slighted. I’m glad your family is slowly coming around. Good luck Labor Day weekend.
When we get married, parents, grandparents, my siblings and nieces and on the way nephew (any day now! She was due on the 23rd) will be there. I am slightly worried about the people who will feel slighted by not being there, but whatever, we can either go really big or intimate. We’re choosing intimate. It’ll seriously be a “hey, let’s get married in two months kind of thing… and we’ll get married in two months.”
A photographer is a must!
I’m posting this question here because I know MG reads this thread occasionally.
Materialsgirl: How did your parents react about the wedding? Did you tell them before? After? Sorry if you updated before and I missed it.
How’s it going with the dates kmt and ver?
@kare, I know what you’re going through… my mom never said anything to me, but friends who were settled or in the process of settling down tried to push me to date when I wasn’t ready. It sucks! You’re totally fine. Don’t rush. Have fun. I’m convinced that by rushing things, you’ll end up with the wrong person and that by doing you, moving at your own pace, you will meet someone great.kmt, I think it’s awesome you’re not trying to force something with someone, even though he may be a perfectly nice gentleman whom you like as a person. You know what you need right now, you’re communicating those needs, and I think that is how it should be. Because he’s looking for something serious and you’re not, maybe the herpes thing was the deciding factor to call it quits. You weren’t feeling it and this is how it manifested…
I honestly believe timing plays a HUGE part in who we end up with. Timing was off. That’s ok.
I wake up screaming, but I have night terrors. I can only imagine what it feels like to wake up, have zero idea what’s going on, but it was something you initiated in your sleep. That sucks. After a night terror, I usually have to sleep with the light on. And I have to check all corners of my bed to make sure whatever not real thing that was attacking me isn’t still there. I’ve done some light research. Night terrors and sleep walking are related, and they’re hereditary. I’m sure sleep sexing(?) is the same. There are some common elements that can trigger them, including stress, a rich meal close to bed and being over tired. Mine have actually subsided for the first time in ever.
As for what you originally asked about, never feel bad about not continuing a relationships because something isn’t working. You’re totally ok with how you feel. I’d just be honest with him. If he takes it badly, that’s on him.
Yikes @kmt. I’m not sure what I would do in your situation. I think it was awesome that he was so forthcoming, and that speaks a lot for his character. At the same time, I think I’d be a little weirded out too. In the end, if it’s something you’re not comfortable with, it’s totally ok to not pursuit anything with him. It really is.
If it were me, I’d offer to help pay.
