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Oh and also with Tinder you have the option to connect your Instagram so people can look at your Feed. So when I did that I had a lot of guys requesting to follow me. I also used it to check out a lot of guys.
Tinder isn’t meant to be an anonymous app. It’s meant to be a social platform, so all these features are meant to try and get people to connect.
Facebook scans the photos on your phone too.
Back when I was dating Pilot Jones, he kept telling me that he wasn’t on Facebook, that he had just set up a dummy profile so that he could try out Tinder (you have to have an FB account for Tinder, unless that has changed in the last year).
I had tried numerous times to find him online and couldn’t find anything.
Then one day he sends me a selfie and I thought he looked really cute, so I saved the photo to my phone. A few hours later, his profile shows up in People You May Know on Facebook with that same selfie as his profile pic.
I always found it quite easy to find guys on Facebook. On Tinder you see their first name, which is pulled from their Facebook profile, their age, and by default it shows your job title/where you work unless you choose remove that option when setting up your profile (maybe they got rid of that, I haven’t been on in a year).
So I would just search Name + City and they would be fairly simple to find.
Another thing is, Facebook is quite creepy in terms of who they suggest you should be friends with in the People You May Know widget. All of these apps connect and use your data in the background, so they find all kinds of links and connections based on your activity. So I would often see guys from Tinder pop up in People You May Know.
@scorpio thanks!! I agree that there are certain things I’ll need to look into, but I’m not too worried at the moment. I’ve been self-employed before so I know a little bit about how things work. I’ll figure it all out!
Read this today. We should just send this link to like every LW who posts in the forums lol. https://markmanson.net/love
@TheHizzy no, not officially engaged. But he knows it’s important to me before I move, so I expect he’ll make it official somewhere between now and then.
I won’t be able to get a job over there… I’ve already looked into all the visa application types and it just really doesn’t seem like it’s possible in my situation. But I’m not worried, because I hate corporate life and I’m already in the process of starting my own digital business. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time, and I finally got started on it back in August. In the New Year I’ll be working with a business coach who specializes in launching digital products, so I’m looking forward to that!
I’m definitely a little nervous about the transition of living together. Neither of us have ever lived with a significant other before, so it will be a change for sure. But we’ve talked about it and we both expect that there will be an adjustment period.
Anyway, still 8 more months before I move so we’ve got lots of time to discuss all the details. The great thing about my bf is that he’s so easy to talk to. He doesn’t hesitate to discuss important things.
@TheHizzy I’m moving there, aiming for August. And we’re thinking next Christmas is a good time to get married.
Morning guys! I just got back last night from London, England. It was really beautiful, but OMG the most crowded place I’ve ever been. Absolutely unbelievable the way people get squished into subway cars like sardines. I thought London would be a lot like New York in terms of size/population but London wins hands down for record number of people squeezed onto a train.
In other news, bf and I have officially agreed on a timeline for moving and getting married 🙂
It’s funny… with my current boyfriend, all of my friends have told me right from the start that I’m different with him than I have been with any other guy.
I asked what they meant by that, and they said, “You’re just so relaxed. You’re so calm. We’ve never seen you be this easy going about any guy.”
I wasn’t sure whether to be insulted or to take that as a good thing.
We tell LWs on here often enough that if they’re snooping in the first place, something isn’t right.
Like, my dad is a flight instructor so he was really excited that I was dating a pilot. And he thought it would be fun to show me how to listen to air traffic control and what all the commands mean. Which started out innocent enough, but it turned into me getting anxiety and anytime this guy told me about his flights, I would tune in to air traffic control so I could hear his voice over the radio. And sure enough he was always where he said he’d be.
But yeah, something was clearly not right between us, whether he was lying about shit I have no idea, or maybe it was just that we were so incredibly incompatible and in the back of my head I knew that. He was SO charming, but he made me feel so intimidated and insecure.
I definitely acted crazy when I was seeing him and I’m so glad I moved on from that and regained my sanity.
