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    December 6, 2023 at 12:38 pm #1126972

    I had a conversation with some people in my workout class about gift giving, and I think every person who was shopping for nieces/nephews was shocked at the expensive stuff they were asking for! One was asking for Airpods- and my friend was surprised/confused because… she’s 11? And doesn’t even have a phone? Anyhoo.

    I have an 11 year old nephew and I’m giving up on getting him gifts (since he has previously not been too excited about my gifts) and instead I’m going to either give him a $50 bill or a gift card to target. The younger nephew (age 6.5) will get some legos and/or hot wheels and puzzles. Quite frankly, I’m less invested in gifting them stuff since I haven’t seen either since *last* Christmas nor talked to them in any form, so I’m not putting much effort into their gifts this year!

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    October 26, 2023 at 12:32 pm #1126400

    @Copa, Nobody ever warned me either!

    @Wendy
    , That’s great! I’m hoping I’ll keep noticing little changes as time passes. After my previous experience with too-harsh products I’m happy to stay with something low-dose as long as it does something. I have heard from so many people it’s a holy grail of anti-aging, but I guess we’ll have to see how it goes. I hope you update us as time passes!

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    October 25, 2023 at 2:08 pm #1126394

    I just started to incorporate tretinoin into my routine – I use the lowest strength, 0.025%. I went to the dermatologist a month ago and I asked her about a small area of melasma on my chin, and she suggested the tret plus adding zinc sunblock into my routine. I always wear sunblock but I realized that what I use doesn’t have zinc in it! I have fair skin, freckles, and haven’t had many texture or acne issues. In my early 20’s i used Retin-A and it was horrible- my skin flaked off and was red and sensitive. I think the low dose tret seems to be working – no negative side effects and I think the melasma is lightening already! I have also been using it elsewhere on my face, as the doc said it is great for anti-aging. We’ll see!

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    August 2, 2023 at 1:45 pm #1124151

    Oh man, internships! That is not a good look to just stop showing up, even if she was just answering the phone and making copies. I remember my first internship – I was hired by one partner in a 5-person firm and then 2 weeks after I started that guy retired and left. And the other partner never seemed to like me- he probably was annoyed the other guy hired me without talking to him. The three other people were nice and would give me stuff to do but I had no idea what it was supposed to be like working in an office.

    I’m currently going in to work 3x a week (tu-thurs) and frankly I like being able to talk to people or meet up in person. My office is small (28) and we have a small satellite office where I’m currently the only one here at the moment! I feel more productive but it’s also nice having a couple of days to wfh where I can putter around the house at the same time.

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    May 26, 2023 at 12:02 pm #1120582

    @BloodyMediocrity – I’m sorry about your divorce, but it sounds like things are getting on the up and up for you!

    @Wendy
    – I definitely feel pretty happy. I always love your posts and stories, especially things you post about NY. 🙂

    @copa, Hi! OMG, that is insane about your friend’s wedding. It seems like even doing something small (like under 50 people) is still expensive and takes as much coordinating as something larger. Just, ugh. Story: I found out about my friend’s $70k price tag because her sister in law is now planning her own wedding for this summer (in Napa). The current budget for it is $120k!!! But also, the mom is also like, “I just don’t see how we can have a cocktail hour without an oyster bar!!” So you can imagine what it’s going to be like. My friend’s wedding was really nice and not crazy over the top – the nice thing (and what I suspect what made it pricey) was that the venue hosted them for 2.5 days and also had some on-site cabins so the wedding party was able to stay there. Planning wise, it helped keep it simple with everything at one location. But it came with a price tag, of course!

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    May 25, 2023 at 2:25 pm #1120568

    Hi everybody! I saw that the thread changed names and thought I’d stop lurking and say hi. I’m sorry to hear about your mom, MJ. Maybe it’s strange but it’s kind of nice to read about others’ news and activities. I think I last really chatted with anyone back when we had a couple of Zoom calls, but that must have been a couple of years ago at this point! I’m happy this thread is still going – I know I posted way back when about the bizarre dates I was going on and it was nice to commiserate. I’ve been with my bf now for 6.5 years and we’re pretty settled but also completely remodeling our house ourselves, so that’s been fun! I figure we’ll just do the paperwork to get married at some point but I realized have no desire for a wedding (it makes me feel stressed and anxious, not excited). I found out recently that my friend’s wedding, which was last year in Calistoga, cost $70k – which almost made me spit out my water!

    As far as books, I’ve been reading all of Emily St. James Mandel’s novels, and I have enjoyed most of them! I really liked Sea of Tranquility the best, followed by The Glass Hotel (if you read them, start with Glass Hotel bc there is some overlap).

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    May 25, 2022 at 2:01 pm #1109842

    My parents were like this OP. I wasn’t allowed to get my license til right before I graduated hs. I only could go to a college close enough to commute to and live at home, because they were not going to fund my “lifestyle” and pay for room/board and it was cheaper to buy me a car and pay for my gas/insurance. (It was a good school, to be fair, and I had a choice of local colleges, but still.) My father freaked out when, at 22, I told them I wanted to move out of the house. I *could* have told them, no, I don’t want your financial help, I’ll go to community college and then transfer wherever I want on my own dime. But I was young and wanted to get in/out of school and this seemed the path of least resistance. Once I was on my own I made plenty of mistakes, and meanwhile my parents backed way off and we have a good relationship.

    My point is I guess… you have good intentions. I think we all agree on that. But you need to not push your daughter like this. Give your input, sure – I’m sure that’s hard not to do – but that’s it! Give her some space. She’s an adult. You can’t control the outcome but you can give advice and she can take it if she wants it. I feel like there’s a transition time in parent/child relationships where parents have to get used to their children being adults and not children, even though they’re still your child.

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    September 14, 2021 at 2:47 pm #1097634

    I live in a city with a large homeless population (SF) and the city has a homeless outreach team who will come and talk to the person and try to help them get services. It takes a lot of the responsibility away from the police and the outreach team is better equipped to get the person help. Otherwise if they’re having a mental problem they’d be taken to the ER, where, if the person doesn’t want to take their medication, there isn’t really much that can be done. Rinse, repeat.
    In this situation, this is what I’d do. Text her a list of services that OP can find in her area- shelters, women’s services, social workers. Take the dog to a no-kill shelter and tell her where the dog is. That’s really all you can do. I don’t think the OP did a terrible thing, it just was more than they could handle and should not have gotten so involved. But here we are.

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    May 25, 2021 at 12:30 pm #1089625

    Robert, I’m so sorry about your mom. The last year has totally thrown everything upside down, so I’m glad to hear you are doing ok and have stayed healthy.
    Others have given you a lot of good advice. Please get back into therapy! It’s a process, and the sooner you get back into it and working on things the better you will feel. And it’s fine to take a break from dating. Things are so weird these days anyway (and better to be safe about it because of Covid). I recall being active on 3 or 4 different dating apps at the same time, and then realizing it was just exhausting. It’s fine to take a break. Also, it really is a numbers game, like casting a net of opportunity. But for now, I really think you need to get back into therapy and get vaccinated!

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    April 13, 2021 at 12:28 pm #1035002

    Yup, I saw. I’m not too worried, I guess I’ll find out soon enough!

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    April 13, 2021 at 12:20 pm #1035000

    @CurlyQue, have you had luck finding anything for your grandmother?

    Eligibility for 16+ opens here on Thursday, and I was able to make an appointment for Friday morning in the next county over! The county sites are now open to anyone who lives or works there (my office is there). The website crashed last night but I tried again on a whim this morning and one location had availability! I don’t know which mfr. it is, but I’m just glad to finally be able to sign up.

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    March 9, 2021 at 1:57 pm #1031644

    I’m so sorry, Ktfran, for your loss. And I am hoping for the best for your niece. I also think you should get the vaccine if you can.

    My parents actually ended up getting an appointment last week and got their second shot on Friday! I’m very relieved that they don’t have to worry about it anymore. I’m the only one left in my immediate family who hasn’t been vaccinated (my sister is a pharmacist and got hers in January). I have no idea when I’ll be eligible (not an essential worker and in good health) but hopefully it will be open for the general public by summer…

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