Moneypenny

Welcome to the thread, @mjmaim! I hear you on being jaded part. When I get that way, it’s a clear sign I need to take a break!
And festive manicures sound so fun. I haven’t had one (at a salon) in like, 4 years. My nails grow fast, and I also bite them short, so manicures are a waste unless I just do it myself.
I would def get my hair done, though, Veritek- loose waves or a blowout would look fantastic with a sparkly dress!

I think a sporting event would be a cool second date- if you don’t know what to talk about, you can at least talk about the game!
The ball sounds cool. I would just be worried about having to dress appropriately (and not having anything ball-like to wear)… But if he’s just looking to bring a date and have a good time, it could be fun.

I will chime in to agree that this thread is awesome, everyone is so supportive, and there’s such a positive vibe- I enjoy reading everyone’s stories too! (Kumbaya, anyone? :P)

So, last week I had a beer with a guy from eharmony, which was very nice and enjoyable, but I didn’t really get more than a “friend” vibe (that, or he’s socially awkward). I actually deleted his number and thought that was that. Well, Friday night he texted me asking if I wanted to go take a tour of *local tourist trap* because he’d never been, and he had mentioned a podcast about it on the date. I thought about it, and decided, why not. So, we’re going this Saturday. I’m not sure if this is actually a date? Because he has not communicated in any way with me other than setting up the date/time/place to meet, and nothing since. (To be fair I haven’t either.) I’m just going to go, and have a nice time, and if he randomly tries to plant one on me, I’ll have my answer.
There is also another guy I’ve been emailing/texting for the last couple of weeks- he lives in the same city from me, maybe a half mile away. But we still haven’t met. He seems very sweet and down to earth, so perhaps at some point we may actually meet up.

Honestly though? I feel so ambivalent about men right now. I really just do not feel excited about dating anyone. It may be that the matches I’m seeing online are just starting to blur together. Maybe online just isn’t the best venue for me to meet people. I realized today that if I stopped and took a break, I’d feel relieved! It feels like a chore. I *know* what it’s like to have chemistry with someone and to feel excited about going on a date. And I’m just not feeling it! And besides, I have a lot on my mind right now, all related to myself and my goals- I’m paying off my debt (student loans + cc) in large chunks once and for all; I’m working out 4x a week; I am trying to not screw up at my job; I’m planning to take all of my professional licensing exams next year (6 of them!). I have a crappy commute to/from work, and I try to make time for my friends, *and* for myself to recharge. I have my routine! Plus, there are 2 rather dashing dudes at my gym who I notice check me out, which I’m enjoying. And I get so fed up sometimes with the area I live in that I consider escaping (Toronto is sounding nice this week…) So yeah, I know this is a novel but I feel like I need a break. I want to continue to “say yes” to things and “put myself out there” (TM) but until I change my mind again, I’m gonna focus on my own stuff.

I’d go to MO for that! I need a change of scenery, anyway! 😀

Hey peeps!
I actually don’t have any exciting plans for the weekend… I’m going to an engagement lunch on Sunday for a friend of my parents/former neighbor who is getting married next year. She’s really sweet and I’m happy for her- she’s in her mid-40’s and met her fiancé online maybe a year or 2 ago. She’s as happy as could be, and had told my mom that she never thought she’d ever get married. (So! There is hope for us all! 🙂 ) Other than that, I have some chores to do, including putting together a presentation to give to my office about the conference I attended at the beginning of October. (not fun, but it’ll be good to get it done, or at least partly done!)
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I went on a date last night to a craft beer place- Nice guy, very chatty, works in tech but down to earth and has many different interests. Overall, a nice way to spend an hour and a half. Don’t think I’ll see him again, but that’s ok. I’m really not pursuing much of anyone on eHarmony… I frankly am not really excited over the matches I get, and I’m feeling a bit like I just want to be left alone right now. I have a lot going on, and I just am not excited so I’m not stressing over it right now.

Hey peeps!
My coffee date yesterday was very nice. No sparks flew or anything, but he was a very nice, sweet man. We talked mostly about him and his life (he’s from another country and has worked his way up to getting to where he is), and it was a nice, intelligent conversation. It was about an hour and 45 minutes long, and we parted when I told him I had to get going since I had plans (which I didn’t have, but I needed an out and we’d been there for awhile). He was a very sweet, down to earth person, and it was really nice to talk to him. And that was that! So, I guess you could say it was a good date, although I have no plans to see him again.