Moneypenny

Stonegypsy, your weekends plans sound wonderful! Bike rides and movies and cross stitching sound super fun. I can totally understand why you’d feel drained after everything you mentioned. It sounds like this is a really good time to just take the time for yourself and recharge. Maybe take a dating sabbatical for a bit? Sending you internet hugs and wishes for a fun weekend!
My update is that last week I signed up for eharmony. I was feeling like I needed another avenue to “get out there” because what I’ve been doing (coffee meets bagel and generally being “out there” in the world doing my thing) isn’t really getting me anywhere. Needless to say, I got a LOT of attention the first few days to the point where I was thinking of shutting it down, it was so overwhelming. And few of them really caught my eye. In fact, most were “meh” and not very attractive, honestly… And lots of: I’m passionate about my job. Love living life. Love biking. (so many bikers!) Traveling. Laughing. All good things, but all the same! I’ve been weeding through them, and have a few options. And I’m having coffee with one guy (10 years older, a dentist, is not from the US) on Saturday. I’m not very excited, but he’s nice, and it’s a chance to push myself to do something different. After 1 week? I’m not very optimistic about the whole thing, but it’s something different.

Hooray, Emsz! I hope there are more kisses where that one came from!!
And thanks for the kind words! I completely agree with all of your feedback. I gotta say, there was definitely chemistry there which was amazing (I wasn’t imagining things!)… until something felt off. (As I said.) So, I have no idea what it was, but it wasn’t me. And that’s that. I’m hopeful I’ll be updating here sooner rather than later with something new! And I’m glad to get everyone’s objective feedback. 😀

Hi guys… So, I got rejected. I texted wine and cheese dude as kind of a test, because I haven’t heard from him since our date. I suggested we go for a walk/hike on this trail if he was free this weekend. I got a reply a couple hours later from him, saying that he thought it was fun getting to know me too, and that I’m fun, and cute, and intelligent, and that we get along really well. And that he was thinking the past couple of days about a potential relationship between us and that he didn’t think he was feeling that romantic something.
So.
In hindsight, in the hour or so before I left, I was feeling kind of ill at ease- we were talking, and he kept his arms crossed. Then, I moved over to the sofa, but he stayed across the room with his arms crossed. Then I moved over to a chair to put on my shoes, and then he moved to the sofa, which i had just vacated. So I was like, hey, make some room for me! And he did scoot over. But kept his arms crossed the whole rest of the time next to me. And I felt kind of awkward just sitting there, because I wasn’t sure if he wanted me to leave, or what! I suppose he wasn’t feeling the romantic feelings then, clearly. But it was kind of confusing, since everything else was fun and great.
So, I’m disappointed. But I guess it’s nice he actually replied, because I was really scared he was ghosting me, and I didn’t know why. And I’m not going to reply, because what’s the point. And now? I have absolutely zero prospects. Le sigh.

Thanks, you guys! (erm, gals!) I think you’re right. My jerkbrain sometimes just kicks in and makes me doubt myself. For instance, he said, “talk to you later,” when I left. Which, most likely means, “talk to you later.” But then my jerkbrain goes and thinks he means, “talk to you later (but really I’m being vague so I can avoid having to talk to you and am slowly backing away because you’re a weirdo).” Because that’s happened, in my past experience. So it’s hard to put that aside and just go with the flow. But I’m trying.

LadyE: I don’t really have much to add (others have said so many wise things already!) but I just want to say that you seem like a really sweet person. And I am totally rooting for you- I just want you to get what you want!

So true! I mentally picture us all high fiving each other.