Moneypenny

Hi guys!
Lucia and K, your vacations (and vacation options) sound fantastic. I’m sure Greece will be amazing!
I’m actually going on a short (5 day) trip with my bf to Palm Springs at the beginning of June. It’s a short flight from where we live and we’re staying at a fancy resort. We’ve both had a hectic year so far with work and life, plus I’m taking a big exam for my job licensing at the end of May and I’m totally burned out. We’re going to visit Joshua Tree and get massages and just chill. I can’t wait!

This is so funny. Thanks for making my Monday a little better!

Well dang.
Ok it sounds like there are two related issues here. Regarding your moving. It sounds like your new place is above and beyond better than your old place. That’s awesome! But clearly it’s going to feel like a much bigger deal to you since you’re the one dealing with the mold and the smallness, etc. (I lived in a 500sf studio by myself once, and it would have been really tight with 2 people and cats so I get it.) Putting it in perspective, it’s going to be a big deal to you and less so to other people. That’s just how it is.

Now regarding your parents, clearly there’s underlying issues there. If they’re mainly with your father, can you talk to your mother? Or one of your siblings? Have you always looked to your father for approval and not received it? It sounds like that might be part of the problem. If you don’t feel that you can, for whatever reason, talk to either of your parents, the suggestions to talk to a counselor or a therapist is a good one. It could also help with your anxiety. Something to look into.

Oh man, I know I posted a few times about some really lame dates! I don’t post that often now but I enjoy reading everyone’s stories! This has been such a successful and positive forum post! 🙂

Well that post was a blast from the past!

Miss Dre, I totally understand what you mean. I’m one of those people who will dissect a text to death and be “woe is me” when I don’t know wtf is going on, although generally I’ve never been a person who thinks a guy is omg perfect in all ways!!1! But I get it.
In my current relationship (of 1 year), I would say I wasn’t sure how I felt about him for a few weeks. I knew there was something about him I liked, but didn’t want to rush or force anything. I realized I liked him when I noticed how excited I was to see him. And I also didn’t even tell most of my friends I was dating anyone for at least a month or so! I just kept really quiet about it because I wanted to see how it went. The Dude is really low key and was very honest from the beginning how he felt. No guessing games, just… easiness. I dunno, it just feels normal. And even if we don’t end up together for the long term, I can at least appreciate that.