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@lucia_la I have been purging a lot of stuff lately and it is such a good feeling to see so much stuff leave your house. I tackled my office this weekend and filled 3 recycling bins with papers and old boxes to get rid of, and an entire box of stuff to shred.
I read the Marie Kondo book a couple months ago, parts of it made me roll my eyes, but it really does make a difference mentally to clear stuff out and get rid of the clutter.I was the same MoneyPenny and ktfran – no one really knew anything until about a month in. I had even met some of his friends before my friends even knew he existed. I think it was because I wasn’t stressed or worrying “will he text me, what did that mean, etc”. I have felt pretty secure in our relationship since the beginning.
I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and I also have not felt “OMG I have never felt this before, we have a special kind of love, etc.” with him. I have felt that way in the past, and that relationship crashed and burned.
In my current relationship I was pretty sure I was in love about 2 months in, and knew for sure within 3 months. He makes me feel very safe, secure, I trust him 100%, I love our time together and miss him when I am not with him, but am also aware of his faults and our differences and the areas where our relationship won’t be “easy”. I know I want a future with him, and we talk about that, but it isn’t in a “my life would be empty without you and I couldn’t go on without you” kind of way. More of a “you make me happy and my life better and I am so happy we are a couple and have been able join our lives” kind of way.My cat is pretty indifferent to pretty much everyone, but I guess that is the definition of a cat. When I first started to date my boyfriend she would come to the door to greet him, let him pet her (she won’t let anyone pet her except me) and generally tolerated him in her space. We went through a bit of a rough patch in the late spring/early summer and she hissed at him a couple times, wouldn’t let him near her and showed her displeasure at having him in the house. We worked through it and she is great with him now. I told my best friend (who doesn’t have pets) that it is like the cat could sense that he wasn’t making me happy. My bff thought I was nuts, but I still say there is some truth to that.
@MissDre thanks! (looks like we posted at exactly the same time haha) Glad to hear the visit went so well. Kitty approval is the toughest approval of all, so that is a good sign 🙂
@MissDre how was your boyfriend’s visit here for the holidays? Also could you repost your IG account for your company, I work with a lot of companies in Ontario who are small and cannot afford to hire on a full time marketing/PR person, but could use someone on a part time or consulting basis.
That is exciting @missdre, I also have been following along and can’t wait for the updates. As a fellow Canadian who has worked with entrepreneurs, just make sure you speak with a lawyer regarding running your business from another country when it is incorporated in Canada. As an entrepreneur you have a lot more freedom, but there are still important things to consider such as health insurance, taxes, where it is incorporated, where most of your clients are etc (I have seen people get burned in the past).
Congrats @ver – I have been following your story for awhile and am so happy to hear about the positive news on the job front. Usually when one thing falls into the place the rest follows, so good luck!
Long time lurker, have loved following along on this thread. I was reeling from a long term relationship ending when it started, and have since started dating someone that I can see myself spending the rest of my life with. This thread and seeing everyone’s advice definitely help get me to where I am today. I wanted to jump in as I am in a similar point in my relationship as MissDre (minus the long distance part). We have been together almost a year and I feel ready to start the conversation of next steps, but am not actually ready for them to happen yet. Last night we actually had a talk about having “the talk”, which I think you might be going for MissDre. I basically said that I am really happy, we have discussed being together long term and we are both in this. Lately I have been thinking more about our future, what that looks like, etc. I don’t think we are ready for those steps just yet, but in the coming weeks I think we should find some time to chat about what they look for each of us, a loose timeline, and make sure we are on the same page.
My guy doesn’t like to talk about his feelings a whole lot so I tend to be the one to bring up these conversations. I have found that if I tell him I am interested in having a certain conversation, but we don’t have it right away, it gives him time to process and be ready for when we do talk. This usually happens within a few days or a week.
I guess that was kind of a long-winded way to say I get where you are coming from MissDre, I don’t think you need to have a serious talk with set timelines on this trip, but a casual “These are the steps I see us taking as we move forward, what are your thoughts?” And then wrap it up with commenting that it is still a ways off so let’s enjoy our trip and we can talk about this again at Christmas, or whenever you feel comfortable. I think this will also help to calm your nerves a bit and feel a bit more secure in the relationship.
