Stonegypsy

Yaaaay everyone for awesome dates!
@Veritek – 7 times?! Awesome. That’s my record (my partner and I have been trying to get to 10 in a day, but I start getting kind of raw about halfway through.

I am so tired of dating, you guys. I have the same issue as Moneypenny where I’ll chat a few days and then he’ll disappear, or I don’t get a response at all. The last time I made a date with someone I met in person was a disaster, and it seems like most of the people I actually end up going on dates with I just don’t feel any chemistry. I did have a pretty nice date last night, like we had a ton in common (we spent an hour swapping D&D anecdotes) and he makes me laugh, and he was a pretty good kisser, but there’s something there that is making me hesitate and I can’t put my finger on what it is exactly.
And I have posted a few times about the problems I’ve had with my partner, and they go away for awhile and everything seems shiny, and then slowly but surely the same stuff starts to happen again and it’s getting exhausting going through this cycle over and over again. But when things are good, they are *so good*, so I can’t bring myself to just end it.

My date for yesterday cancelled on me morning of. People are so flaky! I have another one scheduled for Friday that I’m really hoping doesn’t flake because I think we’d get along really well.
I did get to do a bunch of really awesome things this weekend though, as it was my 3rd annual Bounce House party on Saturday.

@Eve I’ve gone on dates with lots of people who were great but that I just wasn’t that attracted to. There’s nothing *wrong* with you just because you don’t feel chemistry. I think it’d be weirder if you did feel chemistry with every single genuinely nice person you met.
It’s nothing wrong with you, it’s nothing wrong with him, it just is what it is. Tell him that you think he’s great but that you’re just not feeling it as a romantic connection, and then move on.

He doesn’t have my number, but I just sent a tinder message saying “Hey, on further thought I don’t think we’ll click and don’t think we should meet. Best of luck to you!”
I think I have to wait until I know he’s seen it to unmatch him.

@Eve If you have any nice parks near you, picnics are low cost and enjoyable.
And I definitely didn’t have sparks with my current partner until the second date (which was less a date, and more him joining me for a caroling outing I’d put together, and the sparks happened because we sang a duet together). I don’t think that it’s doomed if they don’t happen *immediately* but if you’re not feeling it by the third date, I’d say it’s probably not going to happen.

Guys, I made a date for Monday evening and I’m kind of regretting it. The guy just kept asking and asking, and when I didn’t answer he kept messaging me. I finally figured “Aw what the hell he’s kind of over eager, but I’ll give him a chance”. Then he started talking about sex, which makes me really uncomfortable before I’ve even met a person, and I told him that and he was like “Well, when we get to that, you watch out ;)”
Also, winky faces follow half of his messages, and it kinda creeps me out. So now I’ve said I’ll go out with this person and I’m trying to think of the best way to say “Actually, let’s not ever”.
Should I just go, or should I break it and fade out?

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