Stonegypsy
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@Kare other fun date ideas – mini golf, arcade bar, ghost tour (still one of the most novel first date invitations I have ever gotten), urban scavenger hunt, murder mystery playhouse (those can be kind of pricey, though)
Guys guys guys my series of duds has been broken and I went on such a good date last night! We met at a park and each brought part of a picnic (I brought chicken and fruit, he brought bread, wine, cheese, and deviled eggs) and the conversation was so easy and enjoyable! We have a ton of hobbies in common (both tabletop gaming nerds, both huge bookworms). I told him more about poly, because he’s really intrigued by it even though he doesn’t have any experience with it, and we talked about our childhoods (both had kind of dysfunctional ones) and it was just so so enjoyable that even when it started raining, we just kept sitting there. No idea right now what it’ll turn into, if anything, but I’m really happy to have just been on a first date that wasn’t creepy or boring.
@Veritek Boo, that sucks 🙁
I totally understand that. Sad things are so much easier to deal with when you have something solid to look forward to
The guy I was supposed to hang out with yesterday was the one to initially ask me out, and then said “Thursday can’t come soon enough”
Frakking guys.
“You have no idea how much I want to see you.”
“Educated guess: Not very much”
@MissDre Yeah, sounds like he’s not interested, or he’d be making the effort to try and see you. It’s not like you’re making it difficult. Not worth your time to keep trying.
@Moneypenny Okay, well at least I know they *can* be connected. I mean, I feel like the excuse must be legitimate, or else he would have just been like “I’m not feeling well”, but the lack of follow-up afterward is disappointing.
Like I said, definitely not reaching out again unless he does. And if he does, he gets one more chance to actually meet up.I am pretty excited about picnic dinner guy on Sunday.
Anyway, thanks for the support and letting me whine, guys. DW is just the best.
Thanks, everyone. I know that’s just the way it goes. I guess part of it is that I’m just feeling down because partner is having awesome NRE with the girl he’s been seeing for a few months and I’m in this dating slump getting blown off left and right 😛
And he and I also realized that we want different types of poly relationship long term and so I’m wanting to find someone who is actually looking for a primary partner to build a life with and trying to create the emotional space to meet that person but it’s just feeling like I’m never going to (I know that’s ridiculous and I’m still young and there’s lots of people out there and I’ll find someone eventually).
Yeah, he said his water heater went out and took the AC with it (I don’t know a lot about that sort of thing. Does that make any sense at all?). I said okay and asked if he wanted to get together Saturday afternoon if he was free. No response yet. Not going to reach out again and I’ll probably delete the text thread at the end of today if he doesn’t reply.
I’m just feeling discouraged at the moment and feeling a little bit sorry for myself because all of my dates have either been really ‘meh’ or crazy or flaked out entirely.
Yeah…. But he was really really cute.
@Kicia I have okcupid and Tinder. Okcupid is where I met my partner, and he met his other partner on Tinder. I haven’t ever tried match.com or any of the paid sites.
I have talked to some really cute guys on Tinder, but nothing has panned out so far. I was supposed to have a date last night with a guy I was pretty excited about, but he cancelled last minute (saying he might need a rain check) and did not propose any alternate days we could get together, which bums me out. However, I am meeting up with another guy on Sunday for a picnic dinner, so that should be fun.
Still, every time someone flakes out on me I get more discouraged and just want to give up entirely and go live in a cave.
No, haven’t met yet. And I don’t even really like getting into the really dull “Hey, how are you. fine, you, ” etc conversations before meeting, but I also don’t want to give the impression that I’m not interested.
