Stonegypsy
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Man, one of my partners refers to me as the hyperbole queen. I tend to use very exaggerated language in day to day life, so I tend to take the things I read here with a little grain of salt.
And I think a lot of the time, everyone here is just trying to provide that hindsight in the form of “Yeah, but remember this happened last time too?” And that’s useful, but the more times you repeat the same advice to someone in a single instance, the less helpful it becomes.
I dunno, maybe we all need to start giving each other the benefit of the doubt? And even if you feel like your point is really important, probably stating it just once and not harping on it (even if they don’t quite seem to be getting it) is a generally good policy.
I’ve noticed this sort of cycle happening on this and other threads –
– Someone brings up something, perhaps being somewhat hyperbolic, usually a minor problem, sometimes already resolved and sometimes not.
– A few people chime in with their opinions
– OP says “Thanks, maybe that’s something to think about”
– More people chime in with their opinions
– OP starts getting their hackles up a little like “Yep, I get it guys. Thanks”
– People continue chiming in with their opinions, possibly because they missed the first few exchanges, possibly because they just feel like it’s an important point to make, whatever
– At this point, OP starts to get kind of defensive, because it wasn’t even a big deal to begin with and even though no one person is meaning to attack, it can start to feel like that when there’s a bunch of them. Like a room full of people pointing at you and saying “No,seriously though, listen to us.” but the defensiveness just prompts a ‘Thou doth protest too much’ sort of response.
– It somehow spirals into a minor but pages-long argument.I don’t have a proposed solution in mind, but it’s definitely something I’ve noticed happening before.
And after work, I have a serious conversation about future relationship goals with J to look forward to, because it’s apparently only just occurring to him that me finding a primary partner eventually is an actual thing that could happen at some point.
Yeah, I actually already feel bad about submitting that post. It was kind of rude and unnecessary. Work has just been awful today and I’m grumpy.
Thanks for your input @Jimmyjamm. I think everyone understands how you feel about this.
@ktfran I’m glad you all were able to work things out after the meltdown. How was your weekend away?
Guyssssss I had the greatest weekend! I got all dressed up on Friday and he showed up in a three piece suit, we went out to dinner at this amazing Italian place. The concert we went to was absolutely wonderful (they did a piece for every Pixar movie, and were showing clips from the movies to match the music). He gave me a really pretty ring/necklace set for a one month anniversary present, which is kind of silly but it was really sweet. He also ended up meeting my mom the next day when she dropped by to give me my birthday gift. The rest of the weekend was pretty relaxed. We just talked and watched movies and cooked together. It was so nice. I’m not going to get to see him much during the week after this because his classes are ramping up, so I’m glad we got to spend the weekend together
hahahaha I love GI Ginger. That is fantastic.
I am taking a half day today so that I can go home and get super dressed up for my date with Physicist tonight. (If I worked a full day, I would have to go home, change as quickly as possible, forego makeup entirely, and leave). I might even paint my non-existent nails
ohhh yay @Ver I’m so glad it went so well!
I’d also like to echo the eyeroll on the ‘only 4 of them’ ridiculously expensive cat. That is ridiculous
@MissDre oh my gawd. How does someone reach adulthood thinking this is okay? How does someone reach *puberty* thinking that’s okay? So gross.
