Another recent issue I have is that my boyfriend recently became very cold with me and wouldn’t speak much to me. When I asked him what was wrong he was very quiet for a long time, and said that he felt like there was disconnect in the relationship and that I’d been shutting him out. This came as a surprise to me, and I asked him to give me some examples. He couldn’t give any. I am upset and don’t know what I did or what I can do to fix the situation. I told him that I feel like I honestly didn’t do anything to make him feel disconnected or excluded. Now I’m not sure how to act around him and I feel angry. He is saying he’s nervous about how I’ve reacted to what he brought up. I thought everything was fine, but he’s been very cold and quiet for a week, and then he told me he felt shut out when I pushed him to say something. HELP. — Cast Out
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