In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
For about three months we were in this stage where we didn’t know what we were doing, and it was confusing and terrifying but somehow it was the best three months of my life. Then after New Years things got bad because we started fighting because I was frustrated that he hadn’t made a commitment yet. We broke up, started dating again two weeks later, and then broke up agai–and have been friends with benefits ever since.
It’s almost been three years and I’m still sleeping with him (two years ago I moved back to where he lives to be near him again). I used to love him, but now I hate the person that he has become to me. I just can’t seem to let go even though I know our friendship is a lost cause. I am at the point where I am about to move away from this town just to get away from him. I’m tired of being stuck in the past. I would really appreciate some good advice. — Stuck in the Past
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at firstname.lastname@example.org.