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I’m 29 and, after over a decade of dating, I’ve found the man I’m meant to be with. We have a supportive, loving, honest relationship that’s full of laughter and respect. For me, Brandon is truly the kind of person you encourage your readers to be with. He cares about things because I care about them, he considers me in his life plans, we have a lot of fun together, we have similar values, and, even when we fight, it’s fair and honest (and doesn’t last long). We’re doing long distance right now, but it’s been going as well as can be expected; we Skype daily, see each other at least every…

There’s a guy I had a huge crush on in my teens. We dated a few times back then and broke up. After a few years, I moved away. Many years later, I ran into him at a restaurant when I came home to visit. My sister told me his wife had passed away from cancer and he had a one-year-old daughter. I was so surprised because I didn’t know he had even been married. He said hello at the restaurant, and that was the last time I heard from him until I joined a Christian dating app a few years later. He found me on there and we went out on…

This letter is from a recent Savage Love column and it reminded me of our conversation last week about open relationships. I’m curious what your thoughts are on this issue and what your advice would be to the LW. I am wondering when the best time is to mention being in an open relationship to new girls. I’m a 27-year-old straight guy who’s been in an open relationship for six years. I often seek out extracurricular activities, but I am unsure of how to bring up my situation without doors closing. I wrote to a seduction blogger who often writes about open relationships, and his advice was to not mention it until…

I’m going through a really rough time at work, and I’m seriously considering finding a new job or just quitting all together. I can’t figure out if it’s just the job that’s so bad, or if the real problem is me and I’d take my same issues with me to a new job. I’m a 27-year-old mechanical engineer, and this is my second job out of college. I dread going into the office for work every day. When I’m away on business trips, which is increasingly becoming half the time, I am often overcome with anxiety and the complete inability to focus. I have endless lists of things that I need to…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.