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My hubby’s friends are taking hubby out for dinner this Friday night. I’m sure their wives are going also. My hubby didn’t say I was invited and doesn’t want to ask if he could bring me. I’m embarrassed that he does not invite me or ask his friends if I can join him. Should I just accept it and not say anything? I’m hurt and offended, but it is his birthday dinner and his friends. (We usually go out to events with these friends, too). I guess hubby really couldn’t care less if I’m not invited. — No Invite from Hubby  

I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for 4-1/2 years, but we are at a crossroads and cannot get past it. The short story is we can’t agree on where to live. I don’t want to move to her town and have a 1-1/2-hour commute to work for the next 17 years until I retire, and she doesn’t want to move her girls out of their school district (they’re in school another 7 years). I have a son who is going to college next year and moving would create the same commute for him that I would have with my work. I have asked my girlfriend to plan a move…

I am in a relationship with someone I met October of last year. Through March, I have paid for 99% of everything that we do, like dinners, vacations, going out, etc. I make about $50K a year. She makes $140K a year but moved to our area last July and built a house and needed to save a lot of money for closing, the move, etc. Note: she has a dog and, because of that, I’ve done all of the commuting to her apartment, and now to her house, since October. She’s been to my apartment twice in eight months because of the dog situation. So, you can see I’ve made enormous…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

My live-in boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Our relationship is the longest he has been in, and we have a five-month-old daughter. Last night, our conversation was quite dull so I looked up “21 questions to ask your boyfriend” on the internet. One of the questions was: “Have you ever loved anyone more than me?” He said, “Yes,” and continued with something along the lines of “…but we have potential to grow and become real” (whatever that means). I was kind of shocked by his response, so I didn’t say anything and continued with the other questions. I don’t know for sure who he is talking about because…

I’m writing to you regarding my relationship with my grandmother. You and your readers have been so helpful in helping others with their family issues that I thought I could reach out here. For the last five years I have been taking care of my grandparents’ finances (paying bills, doing taxes, etc.) and helping them with tasks around the house. I go to their house one evening a week after work to take care of whatever they need done. My grandfather passed away about six months ago. At the time, my grandmother refused to acknowledge any feelings regarding his death. I suggested grief counseling on more than one occasion (having formerly been…