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“I have an issue that no one is giving me the right advice on so I hope you can help. My live-in boyfriend and I are a very happy couple.”

“My husband and I moved from Colorado to my hometown in Ohio, which I will openly admit pretty much sucks.”

I’m a gay man and I’m torn between two lovers. What do I do? Which one should I choose? Why do we have to choose? Can’t we love two people at the same time? As much as we want to love two people at the same time, society doesn’t look at it in a positive light. It’s been tagged as having an “affair.” On one side I have “S,” who tells me he loves me and would never leave me, who brings out the best in me, who encourages me to take risks in life and to move out of my comfort zone. He is a great guy. He is super talented….

I was seeing this amazing guy for about four months. Everything was great. He told me he had feelings for me and I felt the same way. Then, out of nowhere, he started ignoring my calls and texts. I demanded an answer, and he said that, even though he cares for me and has feelings for me, he can’t be my boyfriend or anyone else’s because he has family issues that he is going through and he can’t be good company. We didn’t contact each other for a month, and, when I finally called him, he told me he was happy I called because he had lost my number. He then called…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

“I’m 25 and have never been on a date. Ever. I grew up in a very traditional family that kept a lot of tabs on me and my movements…”

“There is this co-worker who invited me to a gala event some months ago, and I went with her.”

I was reading some advice you gave to someone else in the column, “My Boyfriend Doesn’t Make Enough Money,” and I felt like my relationship has a lot of things in common with that person’s situation. My “fiancé” and I have been together almost four years. I am 32 years old and I have a 12-year-old son with autism. My “fiancé” is 40 and he has two daughters from two previous relationships, 8 and 13 years old. I say “fiancé” because he asked me to marry him on Valentine’s Day 2011 after we were together six months. I said yes and he gave me a nice ring that he said he got…

“I just found out that my younger sister has gotten engaged to her boyfriend whom I seriously do not trust him or like.”