Updates: “Just My Name” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Just My Name” who wrote last week about the non-exclusive relationship she was engaging in with an older man who refused to introduce her as his girlfriend or lover, saying he was not interested in using any “possessive” titles that insinuate exclusivity. Today, she doesn’t have so much of an update but more explanation of her position and a request for more advice.

“My Boyfriend Sent Sexy Snapchat Photos to Another Woman”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. I just caught my boyfriend of six months exchanging sexy Snapchat photos with another woman after I accidentally saw messages they sent to each other on his computer. (This woman lives across the country now, but she’s someone whom he dated briefly before we met). To me, this is cheating. I confronted him about it and he was extremely remorseful, repeatedly apologizing and, while sobbing, begging me to give…

“He Canceled Our June Wedding and Already Has a New Girlfriend”

About two months ago, my then-fiancé canceled our upcoming wedding. Well, first he postponed it, saying he wanted to work on things and that he still loved me and wouldn’t fall out of love with me. Then a week later, saying he had no feelings when we kissed, he ended the relationship. We own a home together, so I am in the process of getting a separation agreement and getting bought out of the home we share. I have reasons to believe he was pursuing someone else for a while. He knew her since high school and never talked about her, but I recently saw her cover photo pic on Facebook of…

“He Won’t Call Me His Lover”

For the past six months I have been in an open relationship with a much older man who says he really cares about me and finds me to be an important part of his life. We talk almost every day and see each other at least 2-3 times a week. We have gone on weekend trips together and have met each other’s friends and family. To me it feels like a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. However, he is insistent upon not using any “possessive” titles that insinuate exclusivity. We both want to keep the relationship non-exclusive, but we’re not dating other people at the moment. He introduces me to other people by my name…

“When Should I Tell My Deployed Boyfriend That I Want to Break Up?”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend, “Don,” for two years. He has been deployed for four months. When he comes back home in early July, we were planning to move in together, but the more that I get to know his family the more I have doubts. He has a 22-year-old daughter who has two kids with one guy and another kid with another guy. She is not with either men, does not work, and gets welfare, but she is now going to college. Don also has a 20-year-old son who recently got his girlfriend pregnant. He doesn’t work either, and he is not interested in going to school. They both live with…

“Should I Leave My Boyfriend Who Has Been Fighting Cancer?”

I’m Chinese, and in 2010 I went to study in the US, where I met my boyfriend not too long after school started. We fell in love and, in the beginning of our relationship, he opened up to me and told me that he is bipolar and had serious depression problems. How serious? He tried to kill himself by swallowing tons of pills his doctor prescribed, then realized that he still wanted to live so he called 911. I didn’t know how to deal with his past suicidal behavior, but he acts normal thanks to the daily doses he is taking, so I tried not to let this misfortune come between us….

“How Can I Get My Ex Back?”

Three weeks ago, my 8-month relationship ended. I don’t know how much of the context is relevant, so I will just give you the whole background. “Jane” and I met for dinner three times before we were exclusive. After the second time we met, I learned from one of her friends, whom we ran into at dinner, that Jane was seeing somebody. I responded to this news by e-mailing Jane and telling her I was hurt. Then, I saw Jane the third time and I poured my heart out. I told her I really liked her. Five days later she had broken up with the guy she was casually seeing, and we…

“I’m Afraid to Go to My Boyfriend’s Daughter’s Wedding”

My boyfriend’s daughter, “Kelly,” is getting married and sent her dad and me an invitation. Her dad and I have a child together, a result of our extra-marital affair. My boyfriend’s ex, “Natalie,” of course, hates me and blames me for everything. I recently found a text where she called me and my three kids derogatory names. I was so hurt when I discovered this text because it was there in black and white how much she hates me. At least Kelly shows me affection although for the past couple months since she moved with her mom she’s been very distant. Anyway, Kelly invited me to her wedding. I want to go,…

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