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New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. I have been with my fiancé for over two years now. He is an amazing man and my best friend, and I truly love him. However, he is very overly sexual and kinky, which I’ve always known. He sometimes looks on Craigslist for ads for couples to watch us have sex, girls to come watch us or a guy to have sex with me while my fiancé watches. We…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He’s an only son and his mother tends to be controlling. She has always been a little difficult, but we started getting along one day after she was drunk and told me all her true feelings about me. I took it all in, knowing that she’d had it on her chest for the last year and a half. Fast forward…

My husband and I have been married for nearly a year, together around six. We have a very healthy and happy relationship in all areas, but lately have been struggling with one basically minor issue – his weed smoking. We had extensive conversations about both of our expectations and wants relating to this subject before getting married, and we had come to a mutual, “meet-in-the-middle” agreement. I essentially wanted him to not buy or smoke weed ever again after our wedding, while he wanted to continue smoking every day. We agreed on once or twice a week, at most, would be okay post-wedding. Since the wedding early last year, he has not…

From the forums: I was dating this guy, “Eric,” whom I worked with, and about a month into our relationship I went to Greece for the summer. When I came back, he ended things, telling me he was confused. We continued talking every day via text and at work, but I realized a friendship he had with a married coworker went from innocent to weird. She went to Brazil with her husband, and that is when things got interesting. Both she and Eric would always be on Facebook chat at the same time, and log off at the same second. At first when I noticed, I thought it was a coincidence and…

There’s this man — let’s call him “Handsome” — whom I’ve been intimate with, on and off, for four years. He is going on 38, never had a girlfriend, yet claims to be “lonely” and self identifies as having “issues” when it comes to relationships. Whether this means he’s just a player, or actually desires more intimacy and vulnerability with a woman, remains a mystery. Since I’ve known Handsome, I had a child with another man (whom I love deeply and dearly, but that’s another topic for another day). When my son was about 20 months, Handsome and I reconnected and it felt redemptive, like the reset we had both been seeking. Our…