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New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have an amazing boyfriend. We’re very happy together; we equally make plans, our banter keeps getting better and better, we’re really attracted to each other, and we enjoy spending lots of time with our respective friend groups. After we’d been dating for…

I’m a 24-year-old in a lesbian relationship. Recently, my girlfriend confessed that she envies my looks, education, and professional success. I’m glad she was open with me, and I want nothing more than to help her overcome these negative emotions. I think that the fact that we get along well is more important than what our business cards say or how many pieces of paper hang on our walls. The fact that we find each other attractive is more important than which conventional beauty standards we meet. And we’re both lucky to be in a loving relationship, which trumps everything else. Or at least, that’s how it should be, right? However, sometimes…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

I found out in January two years ago I was pregnant. Four months later, I asked my MIL if she wanted to host a shower for me and she said no. I called my aunt who loves to entertain and she was thrilled to be asked. Fast forward to A’s arrival in October. Within two weeks we were told that A had Down Syndrome and a hole in her heart which would require surgery to correct. Obviously, this was a devastating diagnosis and it took me a while to adjust. While I was processing this information, we told immediate family — our parents, siblings and siblings’ spouses — and requested that they…

“I recently visited a guy friend of mine. After hanging out and getting a few drinks, I missed the last train back to my city and stayed over.”