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On paper I have a good boyfriend — he is sweet, helpful, willing to accommodate my needs, and always has my back. However, I have been feeling for a long time like something is “off” and only recently figured out what it was. He has been described by others as self-centered, an attribution that he willingly admits to. I told him that I feel like he is generally more interested in and entertained by whatever is in his own life and his own head than anything I have to say. For example, he laughs far more at his own jokes than he does at mine (maybe I’m just not funny?…) and while…

Since September, I’ve been having a “NSA”/ very casual relationship with a guy I met online. We’re both in our mid-twenties. Initially, we met solely for sex. We’re both in high-pressure, time-consuming professions. The thing is, I’m starting to develop feelings for him and want an actual relationship now and I’m wondering if that’s possible. We only communicate with one another in order to find out if the other person is available to hook-up. We usually meet about once every week or so. After sex, we don’t usually cuddle and one of us usually makes an excuse about needing to go do something because we’re busy. This past week, however, he started…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I consider my boyfriends one of my best friends, and I love him very much, but I don’t know if he is “the one.” He is in a band, and while he has a full-time job, he is perfectly content to keep going as he is, not really pushing himself when it comes to getting a better job, financial security, etc. — all things that are important to me. We have broken up twice, but always get back together. He is very kind and loving, but…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am 45 years old and my boyfriend is almost 40. I just gave him up because after three years he still cannot introduce me to his family. His family does not want to meet me and has never even seen me because I am divorced and a bit older with two children. He has been coming to see me every weekend for three years as he is an hour away. So he has been great that way. Unfortunately, I have come to a crossroads where…

I have been dating my boyfriend since I was 18 (I am now 23). We only had a brief period in college where we broke up, but I pretty much feel I’ve been married since the beginning of college. After our break up, I always questioned getting back together with him since I enjoyed the single life so much. I fell back in love with him, but then I graduated two years ago, got a job out of state, and waited for him to graduate to come to me. Well, he actually got a job in our hometown, and I quit my job a few months ago and moved back. I had…

I dated a guy from work for two months. We went to restaurants and shows, I met his friends — the whole deal. To say that the sex was amazing is an understatement. He was incredibly affectionate and we were very intimate right from the start. We were basically in a relationship (we were exclusive). He recently told me that he cannot see this becoming more serious and that he knew right from the start that this was nothing more than a “rebound” (I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship). He still wanted us to date and have sex though. I said that I couldn’t do that if he didn’t…

My boyfriend and I are in our late twenties, have been together close to two years and are very much in love. We often talk about what our future will look like. He has consistently expressed his deep desire to have a child and be a stay-at-home dad, and I am content to accept the role of mom and breadwinner. You’ve written about how, when choosing Drew as your life partner, you knew he would be a great dad. My question is: How did you know? We don’t have any friends with babies, so I’ve never had the opportunity to see my boyfriend in action with them. He is kind, nurturing, patient…