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I am 22 and graduated from college last May. I met “Sam” my first week of college, and we’ve been good friends ever since. We were roommates our last two years of college, with others, including his girlfriend at the time. They broke up in the middle of senior year, after I had already come to the slow but painful realization that I had serious feelings for him, a person so painfully kind, thoughtful, and talented. He is the first person I’ve ever wanted to compromise for, the first person I’ve really ached for. Shortly before graduation, a mutual friend revealed my emotions to Sam in a public and humiliating manner. We…

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I am a 19-year-old college student with a problem: My overbearing parents want to buy me a house. As silly as it sounds, this is absolutely stressing me out. I moved 1,000 miles away from home to go to a very affordable university and still have relatives nearby (this was not possible back in over-priced California). My parents laid it out straight for me in the beginning and told me they DIDN’T think they should have to pay for my college, since my mother paid for hers all herself and my father had no debt because he want to a military academy. Lo and behold, they refused to let me take out…

Three months ago, my sister (25) met a guy (30) through a blind date and apparently hit it off. I met him and didn’t like him. He wasn’t an interesting person. He seemed entirely too comfortable in my sisters’ apartment where I was temporarily staying. He put his bare feet up on the coffee table, which I found gross and disrespectful. And he really didn’t speak to me. He was so into my sister, but he didn’t ask me anything about myself, which I thought was disrespectful. A few days later they were “in love.” I later found out (through our other sister) that soon after they met, he got a biggish…

A few months ago I found out my dad was having an affair with a woman at his work. I’m 19 years old, going to college, living at home, and pursuing my dream career. I grew up in a loving family and was very close to both my parents. They were my best friends and I considered myself blessed to have them in my life. Last year, my mom came home from work white in the face saying that my dad had called her and confessed that he “may” have kissed someone at his job. Needless to say there were a lot of tears, a lot of screaming, and a lot of…